So I don’t want to drag this on too much but to try and keep it as brief as possible (it’s probably still going to be so long) I was with someone for just under 2 years. Moved in pretty fast (a couple of months) and he began to become really emotionally abusive. He’s denied this all along and has always blamed me for his awful out-bursts (over the most ridiculous things). He’d call me awful name and just scream at me whilst most of the time i sat there quiet.
There was a few occasions where I’ve exploded and he’s always hung on to these times.
He suffers with his mental health (depression and anxiety) which he is in denial about most of the time. I believe this has a big part to play in how he handles most situations.
For the past 6 months there have been numerous times where is has ‘finished me’ but it’s not really been followed through. I have always tried to make things right and take the blame for everything just for an easier life.
He found out about a year ago he has a child from on ONS that he has absolutely nothing to do with, he just pays money through CSA.
Around a week ago, I exploded again and have finally had the courage to leave. I 100% know I am doing the right thing. When I exploded I did end up saying some quite mean, but true things.
I have since messaged to apologise. Not to get back together or anything, simply for my own piece of mind. I’m not a mean person and would hate to think that anything I have said to someone has hurt them. My reply back from him was that he’d never forgive me and I was a terrible girlfriend. I did absolutely everything for him at home, he was so lazy and made 0 effort. I am just so angry about it because I made so much effort and he’s just being a t**t about it.
I don’t really know the reasoning behind my post, I guess I just want to hear some break up stories that have ended up positive.
All though I know I did the right thing, I am really struggling to not blame myself. I really wanted it to work and I feel like I wasted so much effort on someone. I know it was the right thing leaving but I keep thinking maybe he’ll become a different person in the future and we can sort things out.
He told me the reason it hasn’t worked is because I’m too immature and he has been through things in life giving him more life experience. I am 25 and he is 29? I don’t feel this to be true.
I am living back at my mum and dads until I have enough money to buy a place of my own but things aren’t great here.
I’d love some positive stories to help me keep on track with focusing on myself.
Thanks in advance for even reading this 