Not sleeping together in same beds

[Ghostbabe]

For the last 3 years we haven’t slept in a bed together because our son has been sick. Now my son is in his own bed, my partner now said he doesn’t feel right sleeping in the same bed as me. We tried the other night, he got up and said he wanted to watch tv down stairs. I asked him to come up after he had finished. He never did.
What does this mean?

What's the rest of your relationship like?

Not very good at the moment. He’s really rude towards me and if I stick up for myself he says I’m disrespectful. I asked him to close a door the other day because his office was smelling of his work stuff and he started shouting shut up at me and saying I was disrespectful. Money is tight at the moment and he’s stressed about it. He didn’t even say goodbye to me when he left for work this morning, not that I actually wanted him too because he is being so awful towards me

Obviously there are other issues here. Sleeping in separate beds is not in itself a problem IMO - we have done it for years but our relationship is strong in other respects and we make sure we have time for cuddles etc - we sleep apart for better sleep, not because we don't want to be together.

It sounds as though you are drifting apart, you have obviously had a lot of pressure with you sons illness and your money worries. Time for a good talk with your DP I think, how does he see the future and why is he aggressive toward you?