Love bombing versus Loving

[Thisismyusernamefornow]

I've read plenty of these threads where anybody in a new relationship that is getting lots of loving and attention is warned it's a slippery slope into a toxic relationship with a narc/sociopath/abuser. It seems like every other or 2/3 is going to be absolute hell.

I am dating atm and this scares the hell out of me (after a ten year relationship with a very EA man who ended up with a secret pregnant girlfriend). What am I looking for here? When is the first few months of having fun and wanting to spend more time with this new person entering the danger zone?

Can you just enjoy the first few months without it ending in trauma?

Confused.

In the same situation and spent last night reading articles online about how to differentiate between the two. Still none the wiser about tell tale signs to look out for and it's made me quite worried too.

Is it making you uncomfortable?
Is he telling you he’s never met anyone as special as you before and you are different to other women?

Is he talking undying love/moving in together/marriage and babies, just a few months in?

Does he want to spend every spare minute with you or is there a healthy amount of space?

Does he have a full life of his own? Or does it seem like he’s becoming dependent on you?

Far from dependant on me - just enjoying the time we have together (I have a young family but share them 50/50 with their dad). But filling the time we do have.

Far from dependant on me - just enjoying the time we have together (I have a young family but share them 50/50 with their dad). But filling the time we do have.

I can absolutely see all of the above in my ex, which is why I am wary now! I don't get any massive red flags but then I didn't with the ex and that ended well

The few men who have love bombed me all turned into disastrous relationships where they cheated and moved on quickly after. Definitely a pattern there.