Hosted a big dinner and friend told me on the day (around 11am) they couldn’t make it due to illness. They have been working hard and are burnt out but I put so much effort and spent so much money on (!) the dinner and drinks, that I’m really hurt about it. Friend has a big birthday next few days so has promised to be better for then - well no shit Sherlock, you would never miss your own birthday?! I am so pissed off! This isn’t the first time and I feel like it’s regularly my social events that get canned. It was w really good night in the end but they have texted me personally to apologise and I don’t know how honest I should be in my reply - I do have sympathy, and have always historically been sympathetic, but want to say that I found the latest one a bit selfish as it was so incredibly last minute and did they not realise they were coming down with something before / couldn’t be bothered?? Couched in nicer language obviously. Their excuse was a throat infection, which only seems to occur on weekends, as they are fit and healthy during the week.