Did you get your happy ending with your male friend?

[FelicitySnow]

I’m secretly in love with my male best friend and it really really hurts.

Please give me a tiny bit of hope and let me know if you got your happy ever after if you had feelings for your friend?

Before anyone asks if I’m a teenager, I’m in my late thirties.

Name changed because this wonderful guy knows my user name.

We have been together for 15 years. Beautiful dd and wonderful life together. Met when we were 18 and dating other people. Even dated briefly ourselves, but the timing was never right. Finally got worked it out when we were 30z

Similar to pp, met at 19 and 21, both dating other people, but got together 3 years later, after dancing around the issue and me living abroad for a while. I think we both knew that once we were together that would be it. Still with him 18 years later with 3 kids. The friend thing has definitely helped in the tough times over the last few years.

I've known my dp through various mutual friends for about 20 years. We didn't always hang around together but always got on when we saw each other. We were always with other people though. We got together 3 years ago after bothe having a hard time in previous relationships. We have an 18mth old dd too

I thought this thread was going to be about something else 😂

But while I’m here yes - we were beat friends for a few months first. Clicked like I’ve never clicked with anyone before. I had to make the first move though, he was shy! We’ve been together 16 years.

Yes! We've been married almost 30 years. He's still as lovely as he was then, and he's still my best friend

I know you want positive experiences but thought I'd share my weird one anyway 🙈.. I'd been best friends with this wonderful guy for years and years, spoke everyday, slept over at his house every week (didn't even kiss even though we would sleep in the same bed) we were just the bestest of friends. I was secretly in love with him this whole time but didn't want to ruin the friendship. Turns out he was also in love with me and couldn't hold it in any longer. For years he pleaded and pleaded with me that we should be together and couldn't believe I didn't feel the same way (even though I did) in the end after years of denial I finally told him my true feelings and we straight away decided that we were going to make a go of it and become a couple. It was amazing, we were so in love with each other and it felt so right, didn't think I could love anyone as much as him. We were together for 9 months and then one day he randomly told me that he felt like we needed to go on a break.. It broke my heart and he then decided that he didn't think we should be together at all anymore and that we should still remain friends. We kept in touch after for about 2 months but just drifted and completely stopped talking. Lost my best friend and boyfriend all in one. It's been 5 years since we broke up. I still think about him most days and I really miss his friendship. I still have no idea why he decided he didn't want to be with me anymore because he never gave me a reason for it. I really wish we just stayed friends and just never became a couple.. He contacted me about a year ago saying he wanted to meet up for a catch up and that he missed me but I blanked his message because I have moved on and have a family now.. Even though I do occasionally still think of him, he was a huge part of my life for a long time so it's hard to forget about someone like that but i couldn't ever go back there.. Shame really that he decided to ruin it but hay ho..

No. Sorry. In retrospect I realise I was a sort of surrogate girlfriend and he liked the ego boost. I thought he was my best friend but he wasn’t, not really.

No! I invited him over for dinner with her friend and serious b/f, who she went on to marry, but after 2 hours in her company he wanted her no. to ask her out & after about 5 years in mine, it hadn't crossed his mind!

I think if you’re 30 you should be brave enough to take the bull by the horns. Ask him if he wants to come to dinner with you. If he says yes say, could we make it a date date? Then see what he replies....