Separation advice required

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My husband of 2 and a half years (we have been together for 7) has recently stated he wants us to separate. We don't have DC but he has two that he has half the time.

We own our house together but he recently started building an extension and, for financial reasons, he feels it's best to continue. We would receive much more equity each selling it after it's been built.

At present he's staying here while he has the children and elsewhere when he doesn't. (No OW involved)

He said that he's already over me & over us and categorically doesn't love me anymore. My question is how the hell do I begin to get over him while we are living together? It feels virtually impossible at the present so does anyone have any tips? I feel emotionally stuck & I admit I haven't really accepted or begun to move on.

Neither of us can move anywhere else and I work away one night a week which does help matters.

I feel like I want to shut my emotional side off and force myself to not love him anymore. I desperately desperately need to get to this place but not sure how.

Thankyou in advance

Ive been doing that for a month now, and ive already lost weight and finding it hard to cope with work and ive cried in front of my kids a fair few times (with some crappy excuses) have been given tissues by randoms on tubes etc. I had to give him an ultimatum thursday as i cant go on like This for much longer (amd i love the bastard). You cant really start healing until he is out of the picture . Easy for him as he has clocked out but its so unfair on u. How long until you can sell? Maybe if you had a date in mind it could give you something to focus on and make it easier.... i dont think its healthy to stay in that situation for long otherwise op... be very aware not to push yourself to the point of breaking.

Thankyou so much for your reply and I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same. God only knows how long the extension will take....a minimum of 6 months I think. I already feel like I'm losing the plot as it is, my mental health will have taken an almighty plummet by then.

What ultimatum did you give me? I don't feel ready to do that at all.

What ultimatum did you give HIM rather

What days does he have his children? Are you able to work away for one of these nights or maybe increase to two?

Where is he staying when he doesn’t have the children?

I'm trying to align my time away when he has the children but it's when it's his weekend that it's really difficult. I don't know why I should have to stay away from my own home when this was his decision.

He's staying at a friends on the sofa.

Would you be able to make plans in advance with friends/family to go on spa night stays or a night out with an overnight stay? Have some me time?