Selfish?

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Do men tend to be selfish? Sorry that's maybe an over generalisation. My husband seems to make choices that put his needs first constantly. We arranged a night in last night and he went for a drink and didn't bother coming back till 11.30pm without even letting me know

It's similar situations to that which happen frequently

All people are selfish to some degree or other. However we are also social creatures and will take on board the value of service to the community and others as above or equal to our own needs. Against this varies from person to person. Tomorrow we commemorate men and women who acted selflessly in service to others. It’s a human trait. So I don’t agree with the general statement.

I’m sure some pp will be of the opinion that women are socialised to be more selfless than men. Maybe it’s true, I suspect in the context of family it is true.

My DP has overrun on drinks after work but not when we had plans. I don’t think it is general behaviour that would excuse or explain what your DH did.

I think your DH was thoughtless and acted selfishly last night and on other occasions. I would get to the bottom of why that was rather than looking to find a sweeping statement about men that explains it. Besides women in their millions don’t accept this behaviour and neither should you.

Thankyou for your reasonse,I'm not sure why I put that generalisation in as it doesn't help really- you are right I need to get to the bottom of maybe reasons behind why he does it,I have on numerous occasions tried to talk to him but he just says ok. Then nothing changes,he doesn't seem to care about anything anymore,it's like he's checked out of life,I really appreciate your words ❤️