Not sure I like my dh

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My dh is hard work.
He is on anti depressants. He says he always feels stressed. He takes it out on me and the kids. His tone of voice is often aggressive and he is so negative.
I love being with the kids and get a lot of joy from them. They are little (5, 4, 1) so hard work, but so much fun.
Part of me wants to leave him as I am sick of all the aggression and negativity. But the day to day stuff would be hard. Being a single parent of 3 kids. And he would go to pieces.
He loves the kids and does a lot for and with them. But there is no joy. I don't really enjoy his company.
We have similar values and a shared focus -the kids. But I don't know if I can or should put up with him and his moods for much longer.
Would it be logistically really hard to leave? Should I stay for fear of him losing it? Thanks

Don't put up with his moods. Your children will pick up and them too, and feel anxious, walk on eggshells etc like you do.

His mental health is not your responsibility - there are professionals for that. If he loses it, just call 999 and they'll come and take him to A and E so he gets sorted out.

Oh god I relate to all of this so much

If my partner was aggressive in speech to me I would shout in his fucking face not to talk to me like that - people will sometimes do what they can get away with. Maybe try being a bit fucking frightening and he might think twice.

Hi OP,

How are you getting on?

I relate to so much on this thread. I left 8 months ago and I’ve never been happier!

I read Lundy Bancroft’s book and had NHS psychotherapy and I’m now nearing the end of the Freedom Programme. I recommend all the above. It’s opened my eyes to how much I put up with. I have never regretted leaving!

Good luck xx