Yet another thread about changes in online contact.... Help?

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So I have a bf, and we see each other once a week. Been together 3 months. Busy lives, both have kids etc, so have kept in touch a lot online. Chatting throughout the day.

We've said how we feel about each other, and we have plans going into January.

But, the frequency of how much we chat daily has decreased some what, and so have the flirty comments.

Is this just a natural change as we move out of the honeymoon period or should I be worried that he's going off me?

I don’t think the honeymoon phase tends to wear off quite so quickly! Three months is no time at all.

There’s a chance of course that perhaps he’s just genuinely unusually busy, but my gut has never been wrong on this stuff, and if I’ve ever felt like a guy was losing interest he was.

Still, even if that’s the case there’s not much you can do about it, just mirror the levels of contact that are naturally happening, don’t go more intense to try and reassure yourself, make sure you’re not putting all your eggs in his basket so to speak and if you’ve let any other part of your life slide a bit due to a new relationship (friends, socialising, hobbies, work) make sure to keep focusing on that so you’re busy and not sat around waiting for him to message and overanalysing it.

Three months is a pretty typical timeframe for one or both of you to feel some infatuation wear off and realise there’s nothing of substance underneath, it’s still super early days so don’t sweat it, it’ll pan out however it is going to.

Great advice from @priceofprogress

So what if he goes off you, his loss!

You deserve someone who is into you.

Reduce your contact like he's doing to you. Take longer to reply to his messages. Do it randomly so he won't realise what you're doing. E.g. some reply after 2h, some after 6h etc. Let him wonder if you've gone off him!

Also make plans that don't involve him. Be nice about it but be busy and unavailable.

Don't play games.

How is it when you're together? Does that still feel the same?

Yes, still passionate, and he's still making plans for us to see each other.

We still chat through out the day, and he is busy, he just feels a little less... Eager to please?