Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

How to talk to dp about this

3 replies

TubbyMcTat77 · 07/11/2019 14:11

Love my dp dearly but lately we have both let things slide and not made effort with each other. Things feel quite bleak to me. It's not LtB territory, I love him a lot and overall we are happy. But lately we are both tired and stressed with work and other commitments. There's been a lot of snapping and bickering over silly things. No sex for ages. Little things like a quick text during the day have fallen by the wayside. I just feel deflated with things and need to speak to him about it in a non accusing way.

We have a few nights away planned in a few weeks so I think the break will do us good. Any tips on how else I can address this? I'll admit I don't make effort either because when he's too busy to make the effort my knee jerk reaction is to be grumpy and not make effort either 🤦🏻‍♀️

OP posts:
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 07/11/2019 14:27

Start to lead by example.

Send him a flirty little text during the day and tell him you're looking forward to going away with him.

You don't need to sit down and turn it into a heavy chat; just acknowledge that you've both been busy and stressed lately (and admit your own part in this). And enjoy your time away!

AmIThough · 07/11/2019 14:37

Agree with GreenFingers. Change your behaviour and hopefully he'll follow suit. No point in having a heavy conversation if it's actually easy to resolve.

TubbyMcTat77 · 07/11/2019 14:39

Yeah I guess it's just hard to turn my mood around sometimes into flirty and happy when I feel pissed off. Someone once told me that we mirror bad behaviour and that's what I'm doing with the lack of effort thing. I'll try and make things a bit cheerier lol

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.