Help!

[Mummabear22]

So no idea how to say this or even how to deal with this, but I believe my husband (of only 3months) and the father of the 3 year old DD, is having an online affair. I went onto his laptop (we share) and his Facebook was logged in, it was open on his messenger and I noticed he'd been video chatting some girl regularly, telling her he loves her and all that, he's also been sending some stranger pictures of our DD! I'm so hurt and angry and it looks like this has been going on for almost a year! He even sent her a Xmas present (we struggle to make ends meet and couldn't afford to buy our own daughter much last year!)! We only got married in August! I don't know what to do or even how I would even confront him without him getting angry about me snooping on his Facebook. I'm literally sat here in tears, I have no family near me and don't really have friends. I feel so alone and it's really playing havoc on my depression and anxiety. I'm so broken.

He is not an amazing dad. An amazing dad doesn’t cheat on his child’s mother. An amazing dad doesn’t send his child’s pictures to his affair partner along with his sexually explicit photos/videos.

Your accepting this 'Cheating' gives him carte blanche, to freely cheat forever OP.

He's a disgusting cretin who willingly deprived his daughter of gifts to send a cheap slapper a christmas gift. YIP He's truly amazing..

How are you doing @Mummabear22 ?

I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you. Only been married a few months must be such a shock. If you need someone to talk to or a friend feel free to msg me. Sounds similar to me with the anxiety and getting isolated after having my daughter.

It can be really scary thinking there's no where to go and not thinking you can go it alone but you deserve happiness and like others have said he'll do it again.

@GoodDogBellaBoo I'm doing okay, trying to keep it together for my DD who keeps asking for her dad. I've got him to leave till I can get my head around everything. I spent most of the day yesterday in tears and I just feel so low.

@Herewego93 thank you that's really kind of you

I believe sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Having been in a similar relationship (what was meant to be a happy 1st birthday video to our son from my then husband as he was away on business ended up being a video he sent by accident of him shagging his boss), I urge you to think of the long term.
Please don’t be naive enough to think you aren’t strong enough without him.
What kind of example are you setting your DD if you stay?
Imagine in 20 years time she was in your situation, what would you say to her? ‘Don’t worry darling, I’m sure he’s a great husband really, just stick with it and mug yourself off?’. I doubt it.
I would rather have the ‘I told you so’ than the loss is self respect from staying with a man who WILL cheat on you in reality given the chance.
Sorry if you think this is harsh but it’s tough talk you need.