‘D’P is an angry person

[DaffodilsAndDandelions]

So I posted a few weeks ago about my partner’s drinking habits and hm ruining a trip to Center Parcs.

Well he’s only gone and done it again, albeit in a different manner.

We were supposed to have a romantic night away without the children 6yo DSS and 10mo ds.

It ended up with him being grumpy and shouty from packing the car to rowing about the end of the night (I was ready to call it a night and he wasn’t, it was 11:30) with plenty of other mini fights and aggression on his part in between.
We have barely spoken since apart from him shouting n and swearing as we got ready to go to a bonfire.

I hate the fighting and falling out but don’t know what to do.

You know deep down that this relationship has no future and if you want a better life for yourself and your son you are going to have to leave this man.

What are you getting out of this relationship now?.

Why are you putting up with this from him at all?. How many more occasions is he going to ruin because of either his drinking or his anger towards you and these children?. My guess is he is actually quite plausible to those in the outside world so he is taking out his aggression on you. He was probably itching for a fight also.

Are you really with him now because of the children?. Staying for the kids rarely if ever is a good idea anyway and in your case a particularly bad one. I feel most sorry for these children in all this because they are not at all seeing a good example of a relationship.

prepare yourself to leave. financially, mentally, practically, however long that takes (it's no good just saying LTB it's not that simple when you have children unless you are being beaten, abused). then LTB!

i speak from a similar scenario. it will not get better and your children need to know it's not acceptable.

you do know what to do - why are you staying?

Its not easy to leave with children but its a damn sight harder to stay with someone like this who is and will just drag you all down with him into his pit. What is being written about here is akin to a slow death by 1000 cuts.

Abuse is not solely physical in nature.

Yeah you do know what to do