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Does anyone else dp not speak to children?

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Whatshisproblem · 05/11/2019 08:20

I used the d in dp loosely. DD is 1 and he never really speaks to her, she is a very chatty child and is a lot happier around my family and I ask we will engage with her. DP will just turn on the TV, she really isn't into tv, would much prefer music and just running around as a one year old does. Just always seems so disinterested, I did post yesterday about what he is like towards me.

Is another else's partner or children's father like this and how did it affect your children?

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hellsbellsmelons · 05/11/2019 08:32

So what exactly is the point of him?
What does he bring to the table?
Could you manage without him?
What would separation look like?
Do you have family or a friend you could go to for a couple of days to think things through?
Looking as your thread from yesterday, you want to leave.
So start making plans to do so.

Whatshisproblem · 05/11/2019 08:35

@hellsbells, I am still looking to leave as I find it much easier dealing with DD than having to tell P and then him sulking if DD isn't perfectly behaved. But I just want to know how other kids especially older ones have faired with such dad's and also if the dad's have improved, not that I'm planning on sticking around but would be good just to know.

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 05/11/2019 08:40

I have 2 older children from a previous relationship where white father was robotic towards them and didn't speak to them unless it was blunt instructions or similar.

They're teenagers now and see him on the weekends and the relationship is hard to watch because it's so awkward, one of them in particular is chatty and affectionate and EXP looks like he's made of cardboard when DC tries to hug him. They both struggle socially but we were 100x happier when we split up.

In contrast my now DH is very chatty, affectionate with all 4 children and the younger 2 are a different kettle of fish, they're both, confident, talkative and social so it does make a difference id say.

Whatshisproblem · 05/11/2019 13:59

@TitsalinaBumSquash exactly what I wouldn't want happening. Socially my DD is going extremely well at the moment and I want to keep that up.

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12345kbm · 05/11/2019 14:10

That's called 'emotional neglect' OP and it's very damaging for your child. He's refusing to interact with her and his behaviour is rejecting.

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