Ex’s new partner making terrible comments about me around DC

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Just that really, reports of verbal attacks on me when they spend time with her. I have a thread about contact already but have had reports from DC that she is making all kinds of threat amongst other things.

Having never met her, find it completely strange that she would be so aggressive and just bloody horrible - ex is doing the same but what I have heard her saying is just not on.

Without getting into the ins and outs, how do I manage this? I’m so angry they have upset the DC by making these remarks and whilst I know it’s for their dad to manage, I feel that she needs to stay out of any conversation around DC.

Look up parenting alianation, it's illegal. Even from your ex current partner.

Thank you, not sure what’s best to do

Don't send them.

Document what the children say.

If he instigates mediation you'll be able to have it legally documented and it should pull them into line.

How old are the DC?

I would make it clear to your Ex that you won't have it.
He needs to talk to her and if it continues you will cease contact.
Also suggest mediation as per previous poster.
See what he says to that.
I'm assuming he's a controlling abuvise asshole?

Stopping contact wasn’t advisable.

I have mentioned to him that she does things which are not appropriate but this time she is being aggressive and very negative.

I wil outline what I think and send it to him

and yes very controlling and abusive

How old are DC?

She sounds quite horrible but your ex needs to step up here and manage this.

The 8 and 6. Yes I know he needs to tell her to not do what she’s doing but it’s all coming from him. She dictates contact time etc but as a pp said I need a child arrangement order now. Just not sure what is best because of what I know now has been happening