3 months and no sex or intimacy

[Raimbow]

It's a subject I've bought up with my other half over and over and all he says is he knows and will try and make more of an effort.
Nothings changed...any advice my lovelies?....😥

Decide if you can remain in a relationship without sex or intimacy. By intimacy I assume you mean, kissing, hand holding, hugging etc

Check out the Relate website: www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-sex/sex-common-problems/weve-stopped-having-sex

Decide how long you're going to try and stick to a deadline, for example, if we're not having regular sex by Jan next year, I'm out of here.

I can manage without sex, but I do get lots of kisses, cuddles and kindness. That's the really important thing - love and affection. And sometimes it blossoms into more!

Thanks guys...we are busy and stressed..well hes busy..but sex is important too me. He holds my hand and often gives me quick passing kisses..but never any more than that. Hes quite childish about things..for example squeezing my boobs and making thinking noises! Hes an intelligent guy and weve only been together 4 years...in the beginning he was impotent and it took quite alot to get him comforted with me. But once he was we were at it like rabbits..I'm just confused as to how things could have changed so very much????

Meant HONKING.btw not thinking noises x

Why do you want to even have sex with a man who 'honks' your breasts and who doesn't currently want to have sex with you ( and has said to do so he would have to 'make the effort').

You can only deal with what you have OP, not what you want it to be or what he says he'll change (but won't)

I would speak to him, say that this for you is an issue, ask why he no longer wants sex and go from there. If he fobs it off and won't answer you'll have to consider leaving if sex is very important to you OP. If you are 'setting a deadline' then do so privately- telling another person that they either sleep with you by 'x' date or it's over- is vile. Again, who wants sex with someone they have coerced?

Discuss it and make your own decisions OP. Perhaps you would be more fulfilled with a partner who's sexual desires match yours. Everyones libido is different.

I have spoken too him, but other than using the 'tired' comments I've got no further.

Oh mate, you need to talk to him or you'll end up like me. It's been almost nine years and I feel like I literally might die! Not just no sex, but no affection, nothing. Please try and sort it out quickly if you want to be with him. Good luck x

Porn addict? Look up the symptoms x

Oh everything else is so good in our relationship...its just he has no passion for me..he loves me...tells me I look beautiful etc..but just no sex or sexual stuff.

And RELOM definitely no porn addict...I watch it he doesn't. He just works a quite stressful job and plays in a band..I've told him to ease off the band stuff!!!