Homesick.. how can i make us both happy?

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Hello!

I'm not usually one to post on here, but I'd just like a little advice/someone with experience of this.
Sorry for the essay!!

Back story..
I am from Ireland, moved to England 4 years ago to study and ended up meeting my BF here and staying permanently. We rent a house with our 3 cats and a dog and are very committed to each other.. the whole marriage and babies etc is definitely on the cards.

However.. lately this year I have been so homesick, but not just a little trip home to visit my family.. like I want to move back and live which I never thought I would say it as I'm not a home bird. But the more I think of having kids the more I want to be closer to family plus im coming 25.. i want kids soon! 😂
I don't get to go home that often due to money/work/pets etc.. and family find it hard to visit recently due to a lot going on so I haven't really seen them!

I talked about it with my bf and he is willing to "give it a go" which im grateful that he's even thought about it.

Although I have doubts..
I am currently in university (dropped out the first time) and will be until 2023.. so I have said I would happily wait until then, save our money and have time to sort everything and get a brilliant job and make sure we want to do it etc..
altho 4 years is such a long time, I would happily move home tomorrow.. which he says he would go next year but it means i would have to put off university for a while 😞

He is also going through some personal stuff with his mum and dad which is pretty messy, but im so supportive and always there for him and his mum and it will be sorted next year! although he is quite the mummy's boy, she said "don't you 2 go moving away when you have babies.. i cant not see them everyday" which was light hearted but i know she means it.

Really I feel like she would resent us.. or just me if i took him away? what if we do it and he hates it but i love it? She doesnt have much family and mine is huge but that's what i miss, a big support system. He always says "we will try it for a year" but i am 99.9% sure i wont want to come back.
Has anyone been through this? Does homesickness go away? Im just anxious when i think about how badly it could all go if it doesnt work out.

Sorry you are feeling that way,I think if you don’t go home and try it you’ll regret it and possible resent him in the process...how would things be for him if you went home? Is it somewhere he would get a job,make friends etc? My sister and her dp came home from England and he struggled with both getting a job (did eventually) and making friends - as most people had friends from school still etc - they moved back to England again ! But at least they tried it out - my sister is still very homesick However she does have a friend group in England. Could you transfer to uni here?

Good luck with whatever happens!

@Goricki19 Thank you!
He is quite excited to look at jobs - he's a full time musician and knows quite a popular singer and knows he would possibly have a job waiting in that sense, OR it would be in something like maintenance in a hotel which is something that is always there, so i feel a job would be easy, but I want him to do the one he loves the most and not miss out on the music side because he really enjoys it! but i am scared of it not working out!

And for university im hopefully going on to study Midwifery, and my grades etc would be more accepted here, than Queens which is a lot higher! so ive been even thinking of doing gcse's aswell just incase to get better grades 😫 so much to think about but i definitely will be trying it!!