I've been married for 2.5 years - our beautiful baby is a year and a half old. We got married quickly (dating for less than a year before engagement) but she really pushed to get married and start a family straight away. Talked a lot about how fidelity and trust is the most important thing as both been hurt in past and I was so happy at meeting someone I thought was my soul mate. Fast forward to two months ago - she tells me we've never had a good sexual connection and she feels she's married her best friend. Tells me she has been messaging her ex - I then read her emails sneakily and she has been emailing him since we first met. He didn't reply but she has been saying things like wish we were getting married. I can't help but feel the ground beneath my feet has shifted. She got drunk and told me she doesn't fancy me and we should go to counselling but when sober won't consider it. I feel very angry, betrayed and confused. Yet just 2 weeks after (drunkenly) telling me she wants a divorce she tells me she wants another baby. My head is a mess. I love her but I'm so confused. We have some financial and family pressures which cause some hardship but really it's not that much. I just feel very isolated now and lonely as someone who I thought was my soulmate is really someone I feel I don't know. Is this part of the rite of marriage? Is this normal? I started seeing a therapist as I'm sure I have some baggage but this has caused me more issues as they ask things like 'what does your wife feel about X?' And I have no answer. I wonder if we should part but the anxiety around ruining our child's life is almost unbearable and deep down I know I love my wife even if I don't see what I can do to save our marriage. Anyone been in a remotely similar situation? I'm hoping the kindness of strangers can cast some light on the way forward...