my husband has been irritable, angry, argumentative for a good 6 months, it’s getting progressively worse, I thought it was to do with his job, which he hated, but he’s had a new job, which he says he loves, for the past two months, however, he still finds every opportunity to be angry with either me, the children or both .
He avoids intimacy with me, which has been an issue for many months, on the most recent occasion, citing the fact that I had mismatched pyjamas on after putting the kids to bed as a “mood killer” yes , I get the concept of keeping the romance alive in a relationship, but it’s not as if any effort is put in on his side, and putting 4 kids to bed doesn’t really tally with alluring nightwear .
I’ve asked if there’s anything bothering him, if he’s upset with me, all of which ends as soon as I’ve asked with him saying “don’t try to start an argument” I’ve come to the end of my tether tonight, he’s snapped at me again about such a trivial thing, I’m sick to death of it, what’s the right thing to do? He can be so lovely but it’s been so long since he’s been the man I fell in love with , I haven’t seen that side of him for over a year.
What should I do?