Husband says bad things about me to his friends

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Yesterday at a family event I asked someone if they could let my husband know if he can come out to me so I could borrow his car keys as I left them something the car, I then overheard him saying "oh no, I'm dead now" in front of other people.

Then today he messaged a friend and as I looked over I saw my name in the text saying that I would "complain" about something if he "did that."

Is this a normal thing for a husband to do? To talk about you badly in front of friends or members of family?

I've never spoken about him in a bad way and this is what I get.

Thanks

Sorry but no, thats not normal. Does anyone else ever call him out about it?

no he sounds like a dick

No one knows about it except for me. I'm the only one to hear it.

Feel like going into work tomorrow to bitch about him now

My only friends here are my work colleagues and I only see them at work. I have no one else except his family and they're not going to take my side are they

It might be some men's sense of humour, depending what the text was about. But it's not necessarily funny, and no, it's not nice.

He’s scapegoating you to get attention. Not ok

It sounds like he could have been joking. My dh might joke around and say he's in trouble and I'll laugh, it's not serious. If you have other issues though then you should think about whether he's trying to joke or being derogatory about you