he finally left me hand hold

[evaflora]

my boyfriend has constantly given the silent treatment and overreacted to anything he has perceived as criticism. This includes anything he deems as offensive - even asking what time he will be back. He has threatened breakups constantly in the past as a form of punishment. He calls me manipulative when I ask him not to do something I don't like.

To the outside world he is lovely, shy and introverted. He helps everyone and has a good job. But he acts like he hates me.

He has just left me. I feel a wave of relief. But I am scared. I have no self esteem. Will he come back? I've read on here that they usually come back - how can I stop that happening?

I have my flat and a job, I don't need him but I am so so worn down. It's always what he wants

Breath a big sigh of relief and change your door locks..block all methods of contact from all devices and go and live...go be happy. You dont need this...you know he will never change so dont let him destroy you further....thats how you keep sane! Good luck and enjoy your freedom ,

You've had a lucky escape. No contact going forward is the best thing to do and dont let him worm his way back in!

It's upsetting now, and you need to be really strong to get through this bit. Once you do you will fully feel the relief and freedom you deserve, and then choose how you would like to spend your time, and who with (If anyone!)

Sadly op he will definitely be back in contact. Please try and be strong and ignore, block and don’t listen to his nonsense. You are well and truly rid of him. This type of person will never change and you will never be good enough, no matter what you do.

You don’t need his kind of shit in your life, change the locks, warn family and friends and block, block, block!

Handhold from me. It's tough but remember what you've just told us. It wasn't right. You know it. This is the beginning of your new chapter

The silent treatment is a control thing used to devalue you. Check out the YouTube videos there are loads to choose from. A look at one or two will really open your eyes and help you to seriously decide how to protect yourself.

It sounds like you will be so much happier now . Have a and some and soon you will realise he has done you a favour. Just don’t relent when he tries to worm his way back!