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He moved on after 1 week

55 replies

Phoenixxx · 03/11/2019 11:42

We were seeing each other for 2 months, he ended it, I was gutted enough, but exactly a week later it came up on Facebook saying he was in a relationship with someone else !
He started a new job and this is where they met by the looks of it.
It feels like a sick joke, I am in bits. Who is in a relationship with someone else 1 week later ? It's like I never knew him.
I want to get over this, I know it didnt last that long between us but i'm really upset.
How can I get over this fast ?

OP posts:
Lifecraft · 03/11/2019 15:01

1 week, 1 day, 1 hour, 1 year.....once you'd broken up it ceased to become any of your business. Forget it and move on.

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/11/2019 15:06

I cannot stand the modern 'exclusivity' chat thing. I know it makes me sound like a Victoria prude but I do think if you're fucking regularly then you should be told if they are fucking someone else. I think it's common courtesy. I don't want a double dipped crisp for goodness sake, let alone a knob.

That aside OP, you need to be more careful with your heart (and vagina if he was pushing for no condoms). Two months is nothing. At that point it should be fun and light and not every day, heartbroken if he leaves.

tuliplass · 03/11/2019 15:15

"Double dipped crisp" LMFAO 😊 but yes I agree with you.

Back in the olden days if you were seeing someone you were seeing someone especially if you were sleeping with them.

PumpkinP · 03/11/2019 15:16

Unfortunately that’s the way it IS now. Whether people like it or not. I had a friend who was with someone for 2 years or so she thought then he turned round one day and told her that it wasn’t a relationship as they have never had that chat. Maybe ask them then if they are seeing others? Rather than waiting for them to tell you that way you know where you stand

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 03/11/2019 15:18

You were together for no time at all

Once someone is single they can do whatever they like 🤷🏻‍♀️ Life is too short to not have any fun, sit crying over a failed very short relationship

Iwouldrathernot · 03/11/2019 15:39

1 week of moving on after 2 month long 'relationship' is probably proportional. It's like having a year long break after 8 year relationship.

JenniferM1989 · 03/11/2019 15:46

Just feel safe in the knowledge that he is immature enough to announce a new flame on Facebook after just one week 😂. You can do better OP, much better. So he's in a 'relationship' after one week? I give it a month. All lust and no substance by the sounds of it. In the meantime, you can meet someone mature that will date you for a while then at the appropriate time (a good few dates) and once you've both decided, you'll become an exclusive couple. You didn't have that with this guy, he was just a fuck boy basically. Good for him that he thinks he's met someone 'better' but the announcement after a week suggests this will be a weak and short relationship!

Original poster
Phoenixxx · 03/11/2019 16:18

I had dated 2 guys in 6 months. 1 month after it ended with the 2nd guy, someone else was interested in me. I wasn't interested back, but anyway some female friends warned me i'd get a 'reputation' for seeing someone else after 1 month. God forbid if it had been 1 week 😂 true, it ceased to be my business but it seems kinda tacky to me.
I guess next time i'll have to ask the question of whether they are seeing anyone else, and hope that they tell me the truth. But as you can't really know someone well after 1 month or two, how could I trust they are telling the truth ?

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fuzzymoon · 03/11/2019 16:20

It isn't the norm that people sleep with more than one at a time until exclusive. It's just a few.
What you need to do is establish what the person you are seeing's thinking on this so you know what you are going into.

Original poster
Phoenixxx · 03/11/2019 16:24

I'm glad it isn't the norm 😂 honestly with this one he worked very long hours and saw me very often so don't know how he would have had the time.
Just my thoughts but if you're seeing someone and being affectionate etc. And you are seeing and especially sleeping with others, I think it's courtesy to let this person know in order to not lead them on, rather than say nothing unless they ask.
Sleeping with multiple people and letting them all think theyre the only one is grubby and also puts people at risk.

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PumpkinP · 03/11/2019 16:33

It certainly is the norm with everyone I know and pops up on here regularly

Bellaxx8 · 03/11/2019 19:25

It’s easy to establish.. you just ask are you seeing or sleeping with anyone else. If the answer is no then ask if they are looking to or are we exclusive.

Just as near the beginning and set out what you expect.

I always say if your meeting anyone else then that’s fine but I’m not interested if you are so keep your dick in your pants while your seeing me or il find another dick😂

Bellaxx8 · 03/11/2019 19:25

Ask near*

category12 · 03/11/2019 19:58

anyway some female friends warned me i'd get a 'reputation' for seeing someone else after 1 month.

Just what? Hmm

You have very odd friends.

Amber2313 · 18/08/2022 18:29

Same. But we’ve been right for 14 months. And he was saying he wants to marry me. Then while I was away for a month visiting my parents in my own country ( I live in another country) he sent me a lame message that he like someone else from work now. And started dating her one week after. When I came back and asked him to meet and talk and end it properly, he said it won’t be right for her if he meets me. It’s been a month now and I’m shattered. How did you go through this? I keep hanging out with my friends every day, but I don’t enjoy it. But if I stay at home I keep crying. It’s like I can’t feel comfortable and relaxed either with my friends or at home by myself. And I’m so tired of it

Amber2313 · 18/08/2022 18:30

We were together for 14 months

Thestagshead · 18/08/2022 18:39

Well,your friends are weirdos. And it prob was a week. Sometimes it bappens
I know it meant a lot to you but it was just a few weeks , no he’s not sitting pining or grieving and irs fine for him to move on quickly.

im sorry you’re hurting and ignore those trying to make it worse and say he was cheating, there is no evidence of that.

Male friend of mine has recently done it, was dating a woman for nearly a year on and off.at the end it was just him building up to telling her, when he ended it there was no one else. He literally met the next one the week after and they are inseparable, I’m sure she’s bemused too. The truth is it ended in reality long before he told her he was just dreading telling her and putting it off. Many folks would say the new woman is the ow. She genuinely wasn’t. They met after and threw themselves at each other.

Amber2313 · 18/08/2022 18:58

Yeah, but he was texting me he misses me while I was away, and offered to have a week vacation together after I’m back. But two days before I was coming back he sent that message

stnoa · 18/08/2022 19:05

TheStoic · 03/11/2019 12:04

It hasn’t been one week, unfortunately.

Agree. Don't think anyone goes "fb official" after a week (didn't know anyone over 16 still did this anyway but that's another story)

FlyingSaucerss · 18/08/2022 19:10

This thread is from 2019

2bazookas · 18/08/2022 19:12

You only had a very short friendship. A few dozen dates are not a permanent commitment. Why on earth shouldn't either of you have other friends, move on ?

FlyingSaucerss · 18/08/2022 19:22

Yeh I’m sure the op has moved on given this was posted 3 years ago....

Amber2313 · 18/08/2022 19:48

Dude, I’m just asking how did she go through this and maybe she could give me advice. If my messages annoying you, just ignore them.

GreyCarpet · 18/08/2022 19:54

Phoenixxx · 03/11/2019 11:56

That's true but it wasnt a handful of dates, I saw him every few days for 2 months and really liked him.
I think it's long enough to know if you want to be with someone and to have some sort of feelings.

It's also enough time to know that you don't want to be with someone.

I'd suggest that, if he's announcing he's 'in a relationship' after 1 week, he's either emotionally immature, in which case you're best off out of it, or he's been seeing you both for 2 months and last week made his choice.

Tbh, I can see how you'd think someone has potential, and I'd understand disappointment, but your reaction seems a bit extreme for someone you'd been seeing for 8 weeks!

GreyCarpet · 18/08/2022 19:55

🙄 why do people pointlessly ressurect old threads?

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