How many nights out each week is okay?

[Yellowwwellies]

If you have DC, how many nights off/out do you have (on average) each week?

I’ve been feeling quite low over the last couple of months from the lack of social life. Mostly single parent to one 2 year old DC. Over the last week or two I’ve asked friends/family to babysit around twice a week, which has helped massively - I feel like myself again, the low mood/trapped feeling has lifted. But I want to have realistic expectations of how much is ‘normal’ to socialise with young DC’s!

Also interested if you have older DC and it’s changed as they’ve gotten older.. TIA

If you have to constantly ask favours or for people to look after your child then maybe once a fortnight..

I love my friends but I’d be annoyed if my mate kept asking me to babysit so she could just go out, once a month wouldn’t be a problem though.

I have young DC and I go out once a week but there dad has them so I don’t have to ask friends or family.

It's not really relevant what others do. If you have willing baby sitters and its beneficial for you, go for it.
I didn't breastfeed much so wasnt too tied other than being exhausted of course. Maybe carried on going out once or twice a week after first 6 months?
Two nights a week sounds great. Good for you!

@Bellaxx8 family are more than happy to babysit (and have offered many times!) and I have more than one close friend who regularly spend time with me and DC who have also offered.. the friend who babysitted last week has been offering since DC was born and this is the first time I’ve taken them up on the offer in 2.5 years - not sure id class that as ‘constantly asking favours’ but thank you!

If I was with DC dad I’d do the same as you - unfortunately that isn’t the case; so I’m doing what I can to preserve my mental health.

Being a single parent can be very isolating and if you have willing babysitters go for it. I'm single although DS's dad is involved in his life so I get 3 or 4 nights a month to myself.

If you have willing babysitters, then why not?

I'd probably keep it to once a week to keep them willing - but if you've got lots of offers so it's not all on one - or if family are happy to do it regularly then there's no issue.

If you can easily do it without taking the piss re babysitting then 2 nights a week is great. Being a single parent can be soul destroying, so if it makes you feel better and it's not to the detriment of anyone (inc your dc), then go for it

We rarely go out. We each might have a night away (friends too far for just a few hours out) every other month or so. Maybe 5 nights a year.

It’s just a hassle to plan really. But even if it wasn’t we wouldn’t each go out weekly as we’d barely see each other or our dc otherwise. Dc are 6 & 2.

But I think 2 nights a week is fine, if you can manage it. Just every week would be too much. As a treat when you’ve been feeling done though, all fine.

I never said you have been constantly asking for favours ... but if you plan to keep up with twice a week then you will constantly be asking for favours.
If you have enough friends that you can rotate it around and they don’t mind then go for it but be careful you don’t come across as cheeky asking often.

It’s one thing for someone to offer for 2.5 years because you never took them up on there offer but now you have, that doesn’t mean they want to do it all the time.

If you want to keep everyone willing and not come across as a CF once a week is probably perfect.