Im unsure on what to do about my partner and his attitude towards things....
I've been with my partner now just short of 2 years, we are expecting our first baby any day now. We are both still young (20years old) and having a baby wasn't planned but wouldn't change it for the world. I've known him since we was around 16, we dated for a while and got back together a few years later.
When I first got back with him he was doing so many different things to improve himself and his life such as courses and traineeships to get more qualifications which was amazing, he wasn't on the best wage at the time so I didn't have supporting him and helping him in anyway I could. Tbh I didn't support him that much has he managed and was too proud to ask. After a while he just seemed to let things go, he wasn't as interested in his future anymore which was frustrating as I knew he was capable of so much.
A short time later a few of his family relations fell apart and he has a really rough time. Around the same time I just moved into my own flat, it was never the plan for him to move in but things happened and he didn't really have anywhere else to go, at first it was great, we had a new little flat, we were expecting and things couldn't of been more perfect.
However, before my mat leave I was working over 45 hours per week, I'm on a good wage for my age and things were fine he was looking for work but I noticed he seemed to be looking less and less and started getting to comfortable living of my wage with me and still does till this day. Supporting two adults paying all the bills and buying baby stuff on a single wage is impossible, I've told him he needs to claim or something to help us out a little but he won't, he tells me he will find work soon he's sure of it but it's been over 8 months now and nothing...
What makes it worse is even though I was working 45+ hours per week I was still coming home, doing the washing, cleaning, ironing, shopping and cooking while he just sat there or was out all day even know I'm 9 months pregnant and I still do it all, since going on mat leave I've been rushing round getting the last few bits and not once has he offered to go get them or do the shopping for me when he can see I'm drained, I love him to pieces and he will be the most amazing dad because I know for a fact he will go out his way for her, but we can't go on like this I'm just not sure what to do anymore, I've spoke to him about it countless times and I get the same reaction every time and he clearly doesn't listen to what I say.
Any advice? (Sorry for the long post)