Decrease in texting

[Sosounhappy]

Seeing bf for 5 months he isn't texting as much should I be worried

He's just got past the initial enthusiasm. Don't bombard him with texts. Men like to chase. If you message him too much then you aren't giving him opportunity to chase you. You also run the risk of becoming really annoying if he's busy at work etc.

Yep I agree with unicorn as tough as it is, don't chase. All the men I know are not big texters!

Why don't you change it up a bit now? Not to play games, but to remind him that you have a life away from him. Go out with friends more for a while, start an evening class, take up a new sport...whatever suits you. Have you been very available?

Yes been very available

Does he seem to have a busier social or work life than you? More sport, commitments, seeing mates? Or is he sitting at home in his underpants but not texting you?

I dunno. Is a similar communication pattern very important to you? Is he very preoccupied with something else?

Geezer deffo has syph.

What's a syph

Everyone goes through an almost obsessive phase at the beginning I think. During the first few months - at which point I moved in - my partner were either texting, calling or sleeping, and it was exhausting and exhilarating all at the same time.

It calmed down a lot, but we moved in together quite quickly (after 5 months).

Now, we obviously live together, so wake up together and see each other every night after work. He sometimes texts during work and will phone me if he's driving somewhere, but it's nowhere near as much as it was at the beginning.

It's quite normal :). Sometimes relationships don't last past the initial craziness stage, but even those that do usually calm down.

Does texting really matter that much? 🙄

I will see what happens

Are the texts he is sending normal and chatty etc? If yes, it's pullback, and it's totally normal! You can't sustain the levels of constant texting like at the beginning of a relationship. Decrease in texting is a good sign. That he's comfortable enough in the relationship to not feel the need to be constantly vying for your attention. Your relationship has moved into the next phase. It's how you respond to it that matters. Don't bring it up. Just roll with it. Not advocating game playing but pull back a little yourself.

In my experience, it's not a good sign.

I should probably divorce DH

As relationships grow, the phase of constant texting changes - when I met DH mobiles amd text messages were quite new and a huge novelty, so we texted a lot. As we saw each other more and got more comfortable together, it tailed off. After 20 years together, most of our texts resembled shopping lists, reminders and photos being shared, although we texted that we loved each other at least once a day.

How often do you see him? I wouldn't be automatically worried if you are spending the same or more time together, he may just have settled into the relationship and not feel he has to chat as much.

Texting too much is super annoying.