Don't feel interested in anyone else

[Nicolepb99]

Gonna sound ridiculous but I was dating/talking to someone for 2 months, and he did something pretty cruel and low but won't go into what.
In hindsight two months is really not enough time to really know someone I know. But this guy was so lovely and we were incredibly compatible. There were no red flags, he was just amazing, it was amazing.
What he did showed that he wasn't who I thought he was.
Since, I've tried OLD but nobody interests me. I know OLD is a minefield and there are a few rare gems on there.
But literally nobody interests me.
This guy is in a relationship now (this is linked to what he did) and when I asked my friends they said I should never give him a 2nd chance if he did come back.
I'm sure being single for a bit is the best option. But as I said months later I am finding fault with every guy online and just knowing they won't match up to him.
I did like someone at work a little but he has a girlfriend.
Anyone else felt this way ? Did you eventually meet someone else and forget this person ? Thank you

yes you do, what you are missing is not him- its the relationship its self , its being with another person and what that represents and what it might have been. therefore it is all achievable just with someone else,

You just need some time to heal your wounds I think. Sounds like your trust was damaged.

You might benefit from some counselling or reading round what happened, or at least talking it through with someone a few times and reflecting on what you can learn from this experience (e.g. have some new red flags to look out for, a clearer idea of what kind of positive character traits you’re looking for).

As well as that, give yourself the time to enjoy being single. Spend more time with friends, get into a form of exercise, take up a new hobby, undertake a project at home, watch a lot of films, read a look of books, do some cooking experiments. Whatever makes you feel happy and like you’ve achieved something.

You could either set a time limit or just trust yourself that you’ll know when you’re ready to date again. When you are ready, put what you learned into practice.

Guys that do terrible things very often get away with it because they are charming. Or, put another way- they have managed to charm YOU.

Thank you for the replies ! My trust has definitely been broken sadly. Not just after him but I have previously been cheated on and in abusive relationships.
Therapy has helped but I definitely have a lot of anger towards men now which isn't healthy.
This one was baby-faced, sweet and everyone said how lovely he sounded. They were all completely shocked.
I just now view them all as sex-obsessed and creeps, i'm getting very bolshy if they say weird or creepy stuff to me.

' i'm getting very bolshy if they say weird or creepy stuff to me.'

Good! Don't take any shit. You'll eventually meet a good'un but you don't have to put up with anything from wrong'uns.