I've posted a couple of times before about my situation, its finally come to a head and I finished the relationship I was in but I feel like I've been really selfish.
I've been in a same sex relationship for almost two years, I live with my dcs, she lives in her parents house with her child. Her mum is incredibly controlling, I'd call her abusive and I dont throw that term around lightly. She controls where gf goes, how much money she has, where she brings her child. Gf was calling in to me 2 nights a week after her child went to bed, we would also meet for lunch during the week. The problem was weekends. Her mum wouldnt allow her out at weekends. She wanted her to spend Saturdays shopping and doing housework and sundays bringing her out wherever she wanted to go. She didnt like gf being in a relationship (part of it was homophobia but I think she just didnt like her having a life outside the house). I was never allowed out to their house, in two years i have never seen where my gf lives. Theres more but this is the gist. Anyway yesterday I finished the relationship, we had a chat and gf agrees that her mum (and her exh) have done so much damage to her that she is afraid to go against what her mum says. From my point of view I'm tired of being in a relationship with someone I dont get to see. She has suggested that she may need counselling and I agreed but I've told her that for now I dont want any contact with her. I really do love her and I'm so upset that we're finished, I know if we're in touch we'll just end up back in the same cycle again and I cant keep doing it.
But at the same time I feel like I've abandoned her. Am I really just a selfish cow? Should I keep in touch with her to make sure shes ok? She has mh issues which I'm really worried might be triggered by this.