Boyfriend separated 4 years no divorce

[Lottie02]

Hi, I've been with my separated boyfriend for 4 years. He has lived with me the past year. Recently he bought a house for us to move in together. I've always said I would only move in when he gets a divorce which he agreed. His wife has started divorce proceedings but he doesn't seem to be in a rush to finalise and won't talk about it. He's now said he's moving into his house on his own and wants us to continue dating. While he says he loves me and has asked me to move in with him, he says he cant tell me when his divorce will be sorted. Thoughts?

Is it a particularly complicated divorce? Mine was but it shouldn’t take that long if his ex has really started divorce proceedings. His solicitor would be able to give him a rough idea of how long it would take.

If he won’t talk about it or reassure you and he is moving in on his own, I would take that to mean he is having doubts about being with you.

In another year, his ex-wife can divorce his sluggish ass without his consent, thats probably what he's waiting for. Effort-free divorce. I suggest that even when he IS divorced, that you think very carefully about moving in.

FWIW, i have been separated for four years. I am not divorced. I can't afford it. My exH can afford it, but he is lazy and cant be bothered. We both have new partners. Not being divorced isnt a big issue right now.

Everyday life, thanks, it's about finances, his wife is with her partner and their baby tho very controlling even now and angry if we go away on holidays. The delay has caused major tension between us as has his moving on his own.
Funnylittle floozie, thanks, she's the petitioner, but keeps asking for more money. I want him to divorce as I'm fed up with her being in the background badmouthing me. The breakup was before we met.