AIBU for feeling hurt and upset

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DP and I have been together for 2 years, 6 months ago he moved from the town we met in back to his hometown 50 miles away to work in the city. Since then I have been doing all the travelling to see Dp every weekend. Yesterday I done the usual left work, got to the train station to say I was on my way and both my trains were on time and that id text him when I was 15 minutes away as he would pick me up from the station. He text me saying great I'll see you soon. So I have a smooth journey which is just over 90 minutes, text dp to let him know I'm nearby.. he calls me to say he is still in work because they had an outage and he won't be there for a good hour and that he is sorry. Now I'm not upset about the work situation cause shit happens but I am upset that he couldn't just pick up his phone to let me know, feel like I'm just this extra part for him. I couldn't even catch a taxi to his as I didn't have keys so just waited under a shelter at the station. I would have headed back home but it was already 9pm by that point.

AIBU for being upset by this, and also feeling like I just want to end things ?

You travel to him EVERY weekend and you don't have a key? After SIX months of making 90 minute journeys that he hasn't reciprocated at all? HE moved but YOU do all the travelling? He didn't ring and warn you earlier so you could have had a choice to go home or wait? He didn't suggest he would pay for a taxi to his work to pick up a key?

Fuck that! How long do you foresee this roundtrip of 180 minutes every weekend going on for?

Unless he was on his knees after work with a key to his flat and a promise to share the travelling from now on, I'd tell him to shove his selfishness up his own arse and go home!

His perspective maybe...”mad panic at work...god have they lost all they’ve been doing today...chaos...oh look how long I’ve been here and I didn’t have a chance to phone DP...she’ll understand...her work is important too”

He moved away? And you don’t have a key? And you travel to him every time? I’m concerned that you think this relationship is good enough for you.

My ds stopped being a similar mug. He drove 2 hours after work to his gf's for her to ask him to wait in the car an hour as she was having take away with her room mates.
Not sure why he didn't just go back home. Finished mutually now and hopefully start that way.
You are the only one invested in your relationship op. Be the one to end it.

You do all the travelling, you don't have keys to his place...

He's not very invested in you is he?

He's not exactly rewarding your efforts to see him regularly is he?

YANBU. You are the only one invested in this relationship, you're the only one making any effort.

Either talk to him and come up with a plan for him to do some travelling too, or end it. Don't be a mug (I mean that in the nicest possible way!)

I dont blame you for wanting to end things. TBH, I cant really see what you're getting out of it. Why do you always travel to him? And why dont you have a key? I have been with my DP for about 16 months, and we have keys to each others houses, for exactly situations like this.

You are doing all travelling? What's he doing?

Why do you do all the travelling and why can’t he give you a key?

Insane that you don't have a key.