Does this seem 'off' to you ?

[Whattodo188]

My partner and I have been together coming up to a year, we've had a great year and no real problems well not till the other day. I notice him texting a lot while we were watching a movie I turned and looked at the screen and saw he was texting him ex, I did see the messages but did see that he sent a horny devil faced emoji I also then found he had readded her to facebook. So I confronted him about it and as we were discussing his ex then calls him, he did answer and said it was about problems she was having with her phone and as he is in IT she thought he could help her fix it. I have no problems with exs being friends but they supposedly haven't spoken in well over a year and now the phone calls and texting. Am I going crazy or does something seem off?

Difficult to say. It could be what he said it was. Or it could be the start of something that shouldn’t be starting. Perhaps you will have the opportunity to see more messages “accidentally on purpose” over coming days...and see what all is being said.

All you can do is ask, assuming you’ll know if he’s lying or not. I had this with my ex for years, could tell a mile off when he was lying. Trust your gut!

It’s very off, and you’re right to feel suspicious and unsettled.

Have you asked to see the messages? And asked why he’s sending a horny devil emoji? Disrespectful on all levels

He is up to something. How did he explain the horny devil emoji and Facebook readding? Those don’t have anything to do with phone problems.

The horny devil tells you all you need to know!

I agree, the horny devil is off. I'd be hurt if my partner sent that, especially to an ex of all people.

He's full of shit OP, you saw it? gaslighting to boot. I would just ask why he sent her that and point out I saw him do it. Why has he needed to re-add her on FB?

Come on OP who has ever needed someone working in IT to help with phone problems, it's nonsense. She could have googled faster.

He's gaslighting over it, whether that means something's going on nobody here can say, but it's fairly obvious he's not some put upon guy who she is hounding for IT support when he is sat at his phone sending what he's sending. I'd ask him and suggest if it was innocent he is welcome to show me the exchange they had and I'd apologise and drop it. Bet he throws a tantrum about privacy...

Well part of it is him saying he can have female friends if he wants, wow said nothing about not having female friends. But if you can't text people without sending horny emojis then what is that about

A classic line, ‘I’m allowed to have friends you know’ insinuating you’re controlling to suggest he shouldn’t be texting -flirting with- his ex. Did he show you the messages? I really would’ve insisted on that. If he had nothing to hide, why wouldn’t he? If he didn’t, that’s a shame as he will have now deleted any evidence that may have been on his phone.

How long were they together?

How he is handling this is off and he is not being sensitive about your feelings to reassure you. A year is no time and at this stage you won't really know his character or values. He is being dismissive as even of he wanted to just be friends with her he would offer some reassurance..also you know what you saw, don't doubt yourself.

If he doesn't work in a field where he would confidently know how to fix a phone then I would say that she's inviting him round for another reason...

Trust your gut. If he cannot fix a phone, be wary! It's an excuse to meet! Why would she contact your boyf out of everyone to fix her phone? Come on, listen to that gut.