Getting a bit of a complex - there never seems to be a 3rd date.

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1st dates are like interviews but it's nice to see if there is mutual attraction. A little background.
2nd dates are a little more relaxed, to be more self like.
3rd dates ...... Oh I have no clue!

Lots of chat and interest leading up to first dates. Compliments leading to a 2nd. Then that's it.

I usually get - you are a beautiful lady and seem lovely (which is kind of them to say)...
....But I'm not looking for anything serious
....I don't want to rush into anything serious (then they disappear)
....just stop showing interest
.....or just not that lovely anymore
I feel I have alot to offer and I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea but this happens always! Always always!!

Maybe it's because you're a nice person and they don't just want to have sex and then dumped/stone walled like they usually do?

Have you tried asking for a 3rd date?

When I feel there is little interest or that feeling of intuition that tells you something is off, I don't ask. However, I am always open and honest in letting them know somehow that I am interested.
I have dated 2 guys in the last 2 months. Had a date 1, 5 weeks ago. He has sent, say 2 messages over the last fortnight. Date 2 is arranged for next Friday.
The other guy has cancer date 2 and not rearranged date 2 but still sending boring messages.
It all feels so half hearted to me.

They've worked out that you're not going to put out!
Cancel date two with the man who cant send more texts than 2 in a fortnight, he's not bothered either.
Delete them all and start again. Don't ever settle for second best!
Good luck, you will find someone who is just right for you....but it is hard work at times!

Yeah but how do you feel about them? How many of them have you been champing at the bit to have a third date? How many have you been take it or leave it?

If you are meh about a guy its probably mutual

Agree with pps, no sex on the cards. If they were lovely options, this would not matter to them (the no sex yet thing). They arent right for you, so move on, it's not you.

Thankyou everyone.
I jave cancelled date 2 with one guy. The other guy I have told that it's probably best we leave it there.
Here we go again, it's mind exhausting.
I can usually tell if someone is interested and both guys appeared to be and leading up to the date too. They're 2 people I know that so it wasn't via a dating app.
Tinder isn't working for me. Nobody chats and if they do it stops within a few days. I'm not boring I promise.

So these are guys you know already who are doing this? Do you think they were just after sex and when you showed you weren't just interested in that they disappeared? It seems odd that they obviously knew you, liked you and then weren't interested after two dates - how was it left at the end of the second date?

Date 1 - I went to school with and he has been separated 18 months. He has said he doesn't want a relationship (afyer date 1) but happy to go out. I would have been happy I guess but his lack of interest was poor. I'm not after continuous messaging but he wasn't interested in planning another date. He then mentioned another but not when. So I left it a week and asked when he would like to go out. He would let me know. A week later he said in 2 weeks. He would then send a random message talking about himself. Disappear. I just didn't feel any interest. Lastnight he messaged and I asked his plans for the weekend and he was home. Not that he has to arrange a date with me but if he was interested, I would have thought he have wanted to as he was free.
The other guy, I have been out with before. Then we said we were better friends. He messaged 6 months later saying it would be nice to catch up so I did. He then said he was getting over a break up so no date 2. Then a year later messaged me again explaining be had been silly and would love to catch up and I agreed. I know I shouldn't have but I did and again he cancelled date 2.

when you meet the right one it will be easy! just call them experience and think no more of it.