The burden is very heavy

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Being a single parent.

Dealing with all the appointments, the weight of the cooking, cleaning, working to support a household, dealing with isolation, lonliness and people trying to take advantage because you are alone. Being the only person to sort out homework, health problems, social problems. Trying to fit work around all of the above.

Knowing if a man was there you would be treated with more respect, have a better social life, have someone to help and to share. Having an ex who might or might not cause more problems, or pick the kids up now and then is not enough.

Another emergency today. Yet another to add to the steady stream over the last few years. It was not my fault and it will be resolved and everything will be OK. However I am back on high alert, as I have been for so many years.

When does it fucking end?

I would just like someone else to deal with it all this time.

I agree it is a heavy load but you should feel proud of yourself, you are carrying this weight on your own and that is an amazing achievement.

Why do you think you'd have more respect if you had a man around? I wouldn't care about the respect of people who thought like that if I were you.

Sometimes I wish that there was someone who could take over and take responsibility so that I could have a break but there isn't. So I encourage the dc to help, mine are 11 and 15 and quite capable of doing their bit around the house which makes a small difference. I also make sure I look after myself.

And I remember to stop and look at my fantastic kids and take credit for them because I played a big part in them being so fab and I deserve to feel good about that.

Who takes advantage because you are alone?
Maybe you could try to make some new friendships to get some more support?

Being a mum is hard. There are many different situations that make being with a man more demanding - trust me. Sadly my DH isn’t my support system.
Try to focus on the positives of being single.

Sounds like you are having a bad day, but I hope everything sorts out ok for you x

I completely hear you.
I'm currently going through a horrible waiting period health wise. Waiting to hear the results that will tell me if I have a degenerative condition or not. No one to talk to at 3am when I'm climbing the walls with anxiety. And no one else to be the stand up parent when you're going through hell.

BUT.
My son is amazing. Literally a beautiful soul. Kind, loving, bright and caring. I did that. By myself. And I'm so proud of him and myself. And so should you be.