Relationship ended

[Lacey2019]

Hello all,

I wondered if I could have your advice please. I broke up with my ex earlier this year, after 5 years. I had distanced myself over the past year whilst it hit me in the lead up to our wedding about how I couldn't cope with not having my dad there after losing him to prostate cancer. The wedding was cancelled With 12 weeks to go, for my happiness, we decided it was best to cancel the wedding as we didn't know how I would manage to get down the aisle.

after that, the relationship became not very nice with lots of arguments and we then split up. I had been with him for 5 years, but I am struggling greatly at the moment. This is made worse by the fact he is always out and appears to have met someone. When we ended, he told me that he would be going on dates and enjoying himself but that whether he met someone in a week, a month, or 6 months he would do it when it was the right person. I am still having counselling to deal with the loss of my dad

i am finding it really hard, and more than anything want him back. He does not reply to anything but is always online. I'm so so heartbroken :-(

Oh sweetheart, you've had two major losses of course you feel heartbroken. It is going to take time to heal.

I would suggest going no contact with your ex. He has made his position clear and reaching out is only prolonging your pain.

Stick with the counselling and take comfort that things will get easier.

I can understand the bereavement part as lost my dad this year as well it is very hard. I have also broken up with my ex who knew my dad and was with me after he passed away. It's very hard to cope with a double loss. I would suggest that you also look at the bereavement thread on here as I found it has helped me too.
Hugs
Hope you don't mind me saying but his behaviour is very un supportive and you don't need it when coping with losing a parent. You need people who can love and support you .