I don't care if I never date again..

[TheTickingTime]

Just that, I am suck of the unrealistic expectations people seem to have. I have been so unlucky and I take full ownership for allowing men to walts all over me. I have learnt a great deal about men and myself. I could not care any less if I grow old alone. What about you?

What unrealistic expectations do people have? How are you meeting people?

I’m the same , been in some awful relationships, I’m now happy by myself , doing my own thing, I get lonely sometimes but I’d rather that then put up with mind games and being treated badly.

I have been so unlucky and I take full ownership for allowing men to walts all over me.
This was me in my 20's. I hated myself for allowing shitty men treat me like crap. I actively attracted the wronguns :/ What worked for me was being on my own for a few years. I learned a LOT about myself, my standards, my interests, etc. And now at the age of 35 I've found the most loving, respectful man I could imagine, and it's like nothnig I've ever experienced. Well worth the hard few years of being alone! Are you ok btw?

It's liberating to realise that it's OK to be independent, and not being told to be less, more, too slim, that my hair is too long, my boobs too small, etc yawn.
I genuinely don't care if I never hear another meaningless "I love you" or if I never have sex again. And the remote to both TV and my life is in my hands

@GrumpyMug2, met in the town I moved to, then via work and one through a dating app. All cheated, were bad with money, and unruly when it came to treating people nice. I know there are really good people out there, one for everyone, but I can honestly say I am happy alone.

I'm the same OP. After the traumatic end of my marriage, I'm now a lone parent at the age of 29 to a lovely son, and I have no interest in men, no interest in "moving on" no interest in blended families or being a step mother. No interest in engaging in sex or romance. No interest in "letting anyone in"

I'm content with being alone, I'm happy with my own company. I don't need anyone else and I'm fine with that.

I'm the same - fed up of useless men. Love being independent - and not answering to anybody.

@MaleficentsCrow, I am raising a son too, and he is amazing

I felt exactly the same last year, had totally had enough of love bombers, gas lighters, control freaks, and so many other issues.

Just as I had prepared for a life without a man I met him.

He's changed my life

And I know that if it ends I will NEVER date again

Ah ok you have a DC. Well then I suggest forget OLD. It will happen I'm sure, just don't make it a priority and enjoy being a single parent who can set their own rules for a bit. I wouldn't rule out meeting someone but life is nice on your own

I’m ‘almost’ happy alone. I wish I could just let go of that expectation to meet someone, that others place on me and I place on myself. How do you do that?

But I would rather be on my one than settle and I know one day I would like to meet someone in a normal way. I hate online dating sooooooo much, the ghosting, the let down, the idiots and all that crap.

Another one here! Liberating isn’t it? I’m content, decent job, good friends etc. I stay in when I want, I go out when I want. I eat what I want, I watch what I want. I do my own cooking, cleaning, washing. Nobody is gaslighting me, nobody is emotionally blackmailing me, I’m not picking up after anyone. I don’t have anyone playing mind games with me or trying to control me. I’m not having shit, unsatisfying sex. I’m not having sex at all! I don’t have to shave my legs all the time. I get my bed to myself.
What’s not to absolutely love about that!!

I feel lucky to be happy about being single! I know so many women ( and men) are dying to meet The One, and I'm glad im not one of them.
So many people tell me " you just haven't met the one "
Quite honestly I don't think I ever will, and I don't care. Not everybody is destined to be paired off .

Another one here who is very happy being single. I used to think that being in a relationship was the one thing missing in my life but it took a few bad experiences for me to realise that it wasn’t. I just needed to be happy within myself. Now that I’m in that place, I feel so free! I can do what I want whenever I want without having to answer to anyone. Many will say that all those should be a given in any normal relationship but in a relationship There are always expectations, no matter how small or big. I love not falling out with anyone. I love having my own space. The list of things I appreciate about being single is endless!

Happily single for almost 6 years now.

Cannot see a single positive thing a date/partner etc would bring to my life.

I am on my own now - a recent thing as my OH has had to go into a nursing home because of a degenerative neurological disease. I have to say that I am finding it very hard indeed getting used to being on my own; coming home to a cold empty house; cooking just for me etc. Tell me I will get used to this!!!

Yes me too, exh has been gone two and a half years now and they have been the happiest of my adult life. I am happiest being single and have no desire to alter this ever.

Oh my word, hello everyone of you lot, its nice isn't it. I was brought up with the Idea that a single woman was just odd, something not right a out them. Individuals and stuff along those lines, and I got this one life that I am looking forward to living alone but surrounded by fab people.

I absolutely love my single life. Ex completely and utterly ruined my trust for anyone else ever again (lots of abuse, domestic, emotional, financial etc - the whole lot).

Just me and dd now (and the dog), it's hard work and it's relentless, but I love it. I don't feel like anything is missing at all, I feel calmer, far less anxious and stressed.

Embrace it!

@TheTickingTime Right on, sister! I pretty much agree with you.

'And the remote to both TV and my life is in my hands'

Yep maybe TMI but nowadays I have complete control over my sex life too, and it's zero hastle. :)

Soon to be single again and know for 99% certain that I will remain single for the rest of my life. It would be nice to be loved and to love again but I’m realistic to know that at 56 it’s highly unlikely. I’m ok with that.

@SweetcornFritter 56 is no age nowadays :)