Am I wasting my time? 😣

[Lassy30]

So guys,
There’s this guy that I’ve known for 6 years we’ve never exactly been close but I’ve always had a secret thing for him... a couple of weekends ago he invited me back to his in front of his mates, I said no as I was feeling uncomfortable as there was around 4 of them, the weekend after he left his mates to come meet me in the club and stayed with me for rest of night once the club shut again same question about going back to his so this time I went back with him, we were cuddling holding hands etc when things got abit fruity he threw me off of him and sent me on my way. The following day he messages to say his sorry and he is totally GUTTED we did not do anything and said he hopes there’s another chance... we’ve been texting since that happened then last night he messaged and said “ night buddy ” this morning I woke up and received a good morning message and again flirty messages through out the day... tonight his completely ignored me... I’m confused by his behavior and hurting myself in the process... any input would be great 

I wouldn’t bother giving him the head space. Life is too short for mixed messages like this.

See I thought it was mixed messages (today) but because his been so forward first 2/3 weeks I’ve fallen even more and doesn’t help I’ve had a secret thing for him for so long and genuinely thought I was in with a chance. Ahhh men !!!

It sounds like he's playing games just to mess with you.
Personally I'd ghost him and find someone who doesn't mess me around for their own amusement.

Ahhh men !!!

It’s not men. It’s this man.

What a bellend. He threw you off and sent you on your way and has been blowing hot and cold since? Fuck that. You’re worth more!

Block him and move in.

I just needed to hear it from you guys on here because I don’t wanna be messed around and I certainly don’t want any friends knowing this current situation, my heads a total mess no thanks to him and truthfully it’s hurting! Yep through me off and next day said he was gutted and regretted NOT doing anything in the end and still had the cheek to ask when I was next out and he would meet me! I’m crushed to say the least and i never let a guy win what’s going on 😡

@PurpleDaisies your right just haven’t found the guy for me yet !

Wasting your time for what?

for a NSA shag? Probably not. You could eventually get a shag out of him eventually

for some type of relationship? Yes, of course you're wasting your time on this flaky twat.

Just confused by his actions, as @bookwormsforever said the blowing hot and cold is driving me mental it’s just something I wish he hadn’t instigated I was happy being mum and pretending not to exist but now I feel like I’m involved if I like it or not just wish I’d stayed on the back burner 😞

If he was really keen you would know
He wants a quick shag whenever he feels like it with minimal effort.

Sounds to me like this will just mess with your head. Move on now before that happens

Thanks @Rainbowqueeen ! That information was pretty hard to digest that he just wants a shag without putting in any effort but this is why I asked this question Ovbs I don’t want that I’m a single parent don’t have time for games. 😔

Sorry lassy.

I know it’s tough but the positive side is that you value yourself, know what you are worth and don’t waste your time and end up in a total head fuck situation.

Your right! I guess it just felt good to be recognised and wanted for a short time unfortunately wrong reasons though by sounds of it which already hurts because after 6 years I got noticed for me and not a single mum that never sprung back...