Do these messages seem weird ?

[Tyra435]

I'm probably being fussy as hell, been through a lot of crap with guys and I think nobody interests me at the moment as i'm just finding little things.

One guy I had been talking to for a day then it fizzled out. He messaged me 'hey you' and nothing else.

A second guy ive been speaking to him for 3 days, and he asked me out for a drink, we are yet to meet. Said I was hoping to go to Spain soon and he put 'i'd love to go to Spain, especially with you 😉"

Never met either of them and been speaking for a matter of 2 days.

Feel free to tell me I am being massively fussy and picky, just not feeling it with anyone yet.

Urgh I too would be annoyed by all of those messages. The ‘hey you’ is awful cos it’s basically him indicating that he wants to get the conversation going again yet can’t be arsed to actually think of something to say himself.
The other messages are very typical of the over-familiarity people seem to show to people they have met once or never met. Someone I’d literally messaged twice invited me abroad for a weekend once. Does that EVER work??

Sometimes I bait them though just for fun... like reply to a ‘hey’ with ‘hey’
My most annoying recently though was a guy I matched with on Bumble, so I had to send the first message which was a standard hi and asking him about one of the photos on his profile. His reply was just a single smiley emoji. Urgh. Unmatched.

@Tyra435 'After I didn't reply, 'hey you' guy has just randomly sent me 'hey trouble'.. Urgh.. Youve never even met me and i'm not 7 years old'

The reason they send these is that people come up as recently having visited the site. When they see someone who's on at the same time, I hate to say it but some of them message anyone going hi, hey you etc just to have a hit at a shag, or, to give them the benefit of the doubt, a relationship.

I was quite active on one of these sites for a few days, and I used to message men who seemed interesting (though I put more effort in than these guys.) It's actually hard to remember who you've messaged and who you haven't.

I noticed that some men would hit you up again with a 'hi,' 'hey you' etc. Half the time I think they didn't realise they already tried it before with a particular individual.

They also don't read profiles. I'm bi, and years ago went through a wannabe lesbian phase. My profile said I was only looking for women. It didn't stop the men spamming their 'hi's etc.

I had a school friend years ago who said he'd heard the ethos somewhere that the more people you ask out, the more chance you have of someone taking you up. That seems to be some of these guys' philosophy.

Which isn't to say you

Gah!

'Which isn't to say you aren't special, OP :)'

Interestedwoman yeah I fully get what you mean ! May well be that 🙄
I'm probably one of many 😂
The 'are we ok' thing just creeped me out. That's the kind of thing you say after a tiff with someone you're dating, not a stranger youve never met. I told him I wasn't interested and blocked

"Hey you" & "hey" these make me eye roll. Always put them in the desperation bracket. Blanket message sent out to a few to see who'll reply.