Bored of sexy matching underwear and keen to revert to big knickers

[Choclover27]

So I’m in a great relationship for a post 50, post divorce, not bad looking for my age ,kind of woman. Lots of hot sex.
But I’m fed up of constantly trying to wear sexy underwear to keep Mr Chocolate lover thinking I’m a goddess. How many new sets and additional matching knickers do I need to buy? Searching in the drawer for these lacy delights when all I keep pulling out are my big M&S knickers that look ohsocomfy and inviting to me.
When can I revert to the real me.... cotton polka dot briefs ( not thongs, Brazilians, camis) and mis matching bras?
I’ve been with him 15mths. Surely the time is now right ?

WTAF? Are you being serious? Dress for yourself, for God's sake.

Can you not wear your comfies day to day and do a quick change on evenings where you’re getting some action? Fairly standard I would say

Ha ha, this made me chuckle! I met my now DH when I was 49 and he introduced me to the delights of lovely underwear and ive been wearing matching sets for the last 15 years . But my old body had recently started yearning for comfy stuff (not that the lovely stuff was uncomfortable but at 65 my bum's a different shape and it's hard to get pretty stuff that doesn't 'ride up' (TMI!)).

I've compromised by finding some nice cotton briefs with lace trimmings that just about match my bras - and before people leap in to say how dare I dress sexily for my man, I absolutely love wearing beautiful underwear and I will be eternally grateful to my DH for making me realise I was allowed to wear gorgeous stuff.

I've decided I'm not going to get rid of all pubic hair for a new lover for instance, because if you were to end up in a partnership with them, they kind of would expect it for life, and I'm not prepared to go through all that rigmarole for the rest of my life.

This is a similar thing- if you do something they'll keep expecting it. Bluebell made a good point that if you still feel you need to keep your game up a bit, you could go for comfy knickers but with a bit of a lace trim or something.

Of course, we shouldn't/don't have to in this world.

I have sex underwear, the nicer stuff that is literally only worn when I'm seeing someone. Never worn all day- just for those occasions tbh.

The rest of the time I'm in massive comfy worn out knickers, manky old bras.

I want to buy some nice stuff now 😂

M and S thongs, cotton with some lace, still sexy and really comfy

They were back on after the first few dates.

Warm and comfy sloggi knickers and bras are all I will wear.

Imo plain, well fitted underwear is far more stylish and attractive anyway and tbh I don't care if "they" disagree. I can't imagine being with a man who requires me to wear something uncomfortable

I picked up a packet of big knickers in M&S a while ago and as I couldn’t take them back, thought I might as well wear them. Game changer! Wtf have I been thinking all these years. So comfortable.

Disclaimer: I’m single and the last person to see my nether region was the nurse doing my smear.

I’ve been wearing the same style knickers for 30 years. Through many partners, three pregnancies. Not a single complaint. And they’re comfy. So wear what you want. Comfy. Sexy. Both. But definitely never neither!!!

Similar age and year into a relationship. My partner wears some very nice underwear on occasion. I think if she did every day it would take the excitement off it a touch.
Try some everyday types, see if he comments - if he does he is buying!!!
To be fair my partner also looks fab in her "Bridgette Jones" types!!

This made me chuckle. I went camping this weekend with my newish man & wore lomg johns, vest top, thermal top, base layer, hoody & hiking socks to sleep in. He drew the line when I wanted to keep my bobble hat on . I don't think men mind generally as long as we make the effort occasionally, probably more exciting too for both of you. Just to add, I don't always wear my sexy long Johns

And it only stays on for moments anyway!

While I don’t think it’s necessary to wear sexy undies all the time I don’t know why anyone would wear anything they describe as manky and old at any time! There is lovely underwear out there that also is comfy and looks nice and would give you happiness. I’d be depressed as hell if every time I got undressed I was faced with saggy elastic and grey old pants. Primark do very pretty matching sets for a few pounds and plenty of non-matching, soft, stretchy but still nice stuff as well. I have a drawer full of nice underwear and never spend very much or sit being uncomfortable, because it brings me joy to wear it and see it all nicely in the drawer.

I don’t always wear matching bra and knix (although l always buy 2 pairs of knix with a new bra) but at the very least l choose colours that go together. I wouldn’t wear big knickers either. But neither would I opt for something uncomfortable.

What I wear l don’t wear for anyone else though, I wear for me. I wouldn’t feel right going to work in a navy skirt and a black jacket. Likewise I wouldn’t feel right in green knickers and a red bra. It’s not about turning any one on, it’s about personal pride.

When you do revert to comfy knickers, can I have your glam stuff?

I have many matching sets — some basic and some less basic — but there's always room for more. I am never without matching lingerie. I love it.

Love my comfy ones but over the last year or so I have been making a little bit more of an effort. Pretty dresses rather than joggers/leggings all the time and loads of pretty undies. My DH has been making much more of an effort as well. We are now going through a second honeymoon period, I would highly recommend an overall of your knicker draw.

Can you not wear your comfies day to day and do a quick change on evenings where you’re getting some action? Fairly standard I would say

This - i would want to have a quick freshen up and put on a clean set n the evening anyway if DTD.
I only ever wear highwaist no VPL undies and either nude or black tshirt bra as they look best under clothes.

Overhaul of your knicker drawer not an overall of your draw.

I keep some emergency pants in the bathroom....in the "LadyBasket".

Get dressed in fancypants if anyone is watching...waft to bathroom to finish dressing, swap to less fancybutcomfy. Person watching imagines you in fancy pants all day, you do not spend all day hoiking them out of your arsecrack

Reverse technique if anyone needs to see fancypants before lights out.

It's not like you are going to be constantly swapping and changing unless you are at it 5 times a day.

Why have I never thought of spare knicks in the bathroom lady basket?

Younger me would have been oh-so-grateful for such a tip.

Older me no longer cares who sees her big pants

There are lots of feel good sexy undies that are comfy. I have sensory issues so need comfy knickers but like to look sexy.

M&S and Sainsbury's do good ranges. Higher briefs are more comfy as they don't dig in or ruin a silhouette.

From my mid teens to my early thirties I only wore 'scraps of lace' as they made me feel attractive and grown up. Most of my thirties and early forties were spent in mismatching, greying granny pants. Now my DH and I have rekindled our relationship my underwear budget has risen astronomically. I feel great again, desirable and my DH loves how I look from which I get the benefits. Not wishing to give TMI