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Statutory Maternity Pay8
Yesterday 16:52Georgeofthejungle
So I’ve just found out that the SMP I am entitled to is lower than the rate of SM allowance I would be entitled to (if I didn’t qualify for the SMP) due to the test periods differing. It’s quite a lot lower. Does anyone know if there is anything I can do or do I just have to suck it up? sad plan to call Citizens advice tomorrow but wondered if there were any gurus out there meantime..
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Yesterday 16:52Georgeofthejungle
P.s. sorry if this is the wrong place!
Yesterday 17:09dementedpixie
In what way is it less? Is the 90% for 6 weeks part of your wage less than £148.68?
Yesterday 19:00Jollitwiglet
I don't quite understand what you are saying? Are you saying you would be entitled to more with maternity allowance because of the differing criteria?
Yesterday 19:14dementedpixie
Maternity Allowance would be the lesser of 90% of your wages or £148.68. You just dont get the 6 weeks of 90% that you get with SMP
Yesterday 22:39Georgeofthejungle
I work part time so yeah, I don’t quite hit the 148 generally but there were a few months last year I earned more.
Because of the test period of the SMP landing on a time I got paid a lesser amount I’m stuck with 90% of that.
However with SMA they ask for proof of earnings from a larger period and you pick the highest earnings. So I’d be much better off with the SMA because I’d provide the proof from those few months of higher earnings.
I’ve pretty much come to the conclusion I just need to suck it up and get in with it sad just a big of a stinger as I’d expected the higher amount sad
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Yesterday 22:40Georgeofthejungle
@Jollitwiglet yes that’s what I’m saying, because of the different test periods.
Today 11:51Peekachu
I have a 4 month baby girl, I have been taking care of her solo with no financial help from the biological father. Which is fine as I want no ties to him and no contact due to his psychological abuse before, during and after my pregnancy. We were "friend" lovers before I fell pregnant and travelling together, I came back to England and found I was pregnant. He's American and lives in Puerto Rico for tax reasons.
He told me he was going to try and get full custody of my unborn baby and was threatening me with lawyers and courts and pushing me to get a paternity test throughout my pregnancy, when he told me he would set me up for life if I terminated the baby, I told him to forget about us and I didn't want to hear from him again.
The next I heard from him was a week before I was due to give birth with an emotionally loaded email telling me he should of just been a friend and supportive and he wanted to be at the birth and there for us, he said he'd been doing some personal development and felt like a new man.
He came to England and made it on the day she was born. A day or two after he started to mess with me again, mind games, pushing paternity and talking to me about co-parenting. Which I thought was out of the question at this point as I didn't trust him and was seeing if I could. We got out of hospital and stayed with him in his air bnb, he booked flights for his mother to come over from America to come spend time with her new "grandbaby", while my head was still spinning.
While staying with him he told us he wanted us to move to PR with him and he would get me a nanny or helper. I told him we wouldnt be moving anywhere at this point. I asked him if he would like to help out he could help with child support as I wouldn't be working for awhile as I'd be taking care of the baby and not getting maternity pay as I'd been self employed.
He didn't like this and became very intimidating and hostile and calling me names.
Me and the baby left the air bnb that day, he stayed in England one more week and we spent a day with him so he could have time with me and the baby.
When he left England I breathed a big sigh of relief..
His mother came a few weeks later and she has the same entitled ungracious way and put photos of my baby on facebook after I told her the distress it had caused when he had done the same thing, with no consent from me, no tag and no mention of the mother. She decided to do it anyway with no regard for the state of affairs or my feelings. She said she had "grandma bragging rights" and didn't know what my problem was.
I have decided to go no contact with him and not have them in my baby's life as he is highly exploitive, manipulative and abusive and tries to mess with my head over email and when he is here, throwing his money around, making big money deals, flying friends and himself back and forth to Ibiza for the month but denying me any child support unless I get a paternity test.
I don't think he will take this well, I wouldn't allow him to see us this week, he flew in and I told him we wouldnt be seeing him.
He paid for a private investigator company to search for us and he also went to my parents house to try get my address.
I'm wondering what else I can do to protect myself and my daughter from him, though I don't think he would hurt her, I don't want him in her life because of what I've had to deal with this last year, I don think it's healthy for me or my baby.