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Buying shoes in advance for DP?

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Momniscient · 29/10/2019 12:22

Not sure if this is the right place to post. But here goes.

My partner has just bought a pair of shoes for work, which she completely loves. They're a little unusual so once gone, I'm fairly sure will be gone. She has pretty intense bunions, so shoes tend to break in the fabric earlier than perhaps they should. These ones are suede, however.

I'm considering buying a second pair of the shoes and hiding them so that when these break through (a year? Two?), she doesn't have to spend months trying to find equivalent shoes that she enjoys as much.

Is that mad? The only reason I wouldn't mention it to her (unless she asked about the random shoe box in my cupboard, obviously) would be because she would see it as unnecessary. Probably. And because I quite like surprising her.

My question is: if your partner/wife/husband did this, would you find it weird? Charming?!

Anyone with shoe-breaking bunions have any experience with suede shoe longevity??

OP posts:
jayho · 29/10/2019 21:10

I love that idea, but, re bunions, my sister had hers significantly reduced by her chiropractor with manipulation and a gentle splint sort of thing

RLEOM · 29/10/2019 21:24

I think it's really sweet. I'd be over the moon if my partner did this for me.

morporkia · 30/10/2019 12:04

it's a lovely idea and very forward thinking. as for a hiding place, could you maybe ask a friend/relative to store them for you until they're needed? or maybe behind/under piece of furniture that doesnt get moved...beware of doing this though. i forgot about a load of stocking fillers i bought for my kids and found them 3 years later when we rearranged the bedroom. the colouring books were fine, the fondant filled santas were not so fine

WhatWouldYouDoNext · 30/10/2019 13:17

As you're a woman you have a good idea of whether these will still be in fashion in a year or so

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Based on what exactly??

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I'm a woman and I haven't the faintest idea what's in fashion currently, let alone what might still be in fashion in a couple of years.

Honestly, the assumptions on here at times!

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OP I think it's a lovely idea and would be chuffed to know someone had thought about me. Do it.

category12 · 30/10/2019 13:30

Thoughtful. 👍

Personally being a woman, if I like a pair of shoes I like them and I wouldn't give a shit if they were in or out of fashion, and also I wouldn't know if they were in or out of fashion.

nowayhose · 30/10/2019 14:55

I'd love it that my DP listened to me and then went and acted on it by buying things I really love. You sound lovely, and your DP is very lucky to have you. x

Momniscient · 31/10/2019 13:32

Thanks all! So pleased at the responses.

Re: the shoes. They're not so fashionable that they'll go out of style in that sense, and neither of our personal tastes vary enough that that would change it either.

Thanks for all the bunion advice too!

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Zaphodsotherhead · 31/10/2019 17:07

My DD1, who is, ahem, quite particular, used to love one particular pair of boots, which she wore pretty much 24/7 (not quite in the 'wearing them to bed and refusing to take them off' way, but close). They stopped making those boots and she was bereft when they wore out.

When she found some more on eBay, she promptly bought three pairs. So I think you buying a second pair for your DP is a great idea! And I think it's hugely thoughtful of you and bodes well for your forthcoming marriage.

Bunions are a bastard, they really are.

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