Hi name change as I don't want this linked to me.
Since my previous relationship who always spoke about his ex whether in good or bad light which made me uneasy and sceptical he was over her. Turns out all my instincts were right and he was messaging her in the end. But now it's affecting my future relationships.
When I first met my partner in 2014 his sister was still very much involved with his "first love" who he was with for 2 and a half years and broke up in 2011 when he was 19. Having an ex so close to home did upset me but it wasn't my place.
I remember asking him about how often he sees the ex a few months in as I was made aware he went to a concert with his sister who met up with her there (my friend was also there). He denied that he hasn't seen her in ages and when I pulled him up that I knew he had he just said he didn't want to put me off so soon in the relationship.
Fast forward to now we had a wedding in which the ex was there through his mutual friends and everything was fine until later on in the evening when she was speaking to him and his friend bringing up old times together. My partner didn't comment on it at all and just passed off the comments. When I pulled him aside to express I wasn't happy about it he said he doesnt know why she was bringing up the past ect.
Anyway, I can't shift this feeling for the life of me and I suppose I need reassurance that either these feelings are right and I'm right to feel this way or I'm damaged goods haha