I want to leave my husband but don’t know where to start?!

[Jade9494]

(Posted on legal rights thread too as not sure of correct place to put this!)

I’m totally stuck.
Myself and my husband only got married last month. I shouldn’t have gone through with it as he has been very possessive over me for months and I felt I had no choice with pressure from friends and family.
I really need some legal advice on where I stand in regards to separating. I know we cannot get a divorce until we’ve been married a year.
We have a 3 year old and live together with a joint mortgage but he pays for it and the bills as I only work part time as a self employed beauty therapist. I wouldn’t be able to privately rent as my income is only about £400 a month.
I don’t know what to do next as the internet is full of contradicting advice and I really need to start building the foundations before I leave as he will make it so difficult for me and I need a plan in place!

Please don't stay in an unhappy marriage because you think you can't afford to go it alone. Go to your local council and get some advice, you can probably get help with your rent if you are on a low income. As for a divorce that's not overly important at the moment, just get yourself and your child sorted. Have you spoke to your husband about how you feel? I feel for you, I walked out on my partner with my 14 month old twins. It was the hardest thing I've ever done and I literally left with nothing! As hard as it was I knew it was the right thing. He didn't treat me very well at all and most the time he didn't let me leave the house without him. I didn't work so had no income at all. Luckily I stayed with family until I could get myself on my feet again. Can you talk to a family member or a close friend?

I went to see citizens advice about this before and their only advice was to not leave the house as it’s in both our names and I have a right to live there, only problem is, so does he! And I know he would definitely not leave.
It’s a 2 bedroom house so I’d have to sleep on the sofa and we’d be under each others feet constantly 😕.
Can I ask you how you managed to get back on your feet once you had moved in with family? As I was worried I would be entitled to no help at all if I were to go and stay with my parents for a while. Even though they have no room for us either.
I have tried to speak to my husband before but we just go round in circles, he loves me so much I know he does but he’s just so smothering and I can’t live like that 😥.
My family and friends adore him and never see my side of things.
Thank you for your advice so far though, it’s really reassuring to know I’m not alone x

How old are you, Jade? That effects what benefits and housing help you can claim. x

I’m 26 x

@Jade9494 it was hard work and I ended up staying with my parents for about 6 months. I was lucky enough to get a council house and help with my rent but I know that's not always the case. I got child tax credits which helped a lot and luckily my parents didn't charge me any rent - I just did all the housework and cooking as I was home all day! I really feel for you and hope you can sort things out sooner rather than later. If the house is in both your names would he be prepared to move out? It's a hard one. My ex completely refused blank to go anywhere but I think he just thought I'd have to stay as I couldn't afford to rent myself.