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Totally stuck

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aproudmum · 27/10/2019 16:49

I'll try and be brief.

Married for 17 years, 3 children.

Husband has for years been on and off texting other women, never meeting. Over summer he was messaging a women, when they decided they wanted to meet, I agreed, but then find out that, from a message I obviously wasn't to see, hubby had said he was serperated, this upset me a lot, as I trusted him with the situation but he lied. Anyway then she had said she didn't want to meet him in the end. I'm not innocent as with his consent I had a FB but it was just sex and hubby encouraged me. Sounds wrong when I read it back. Due to the fact that he lied to me, nearer broke us, but we made a decision that he would stop texting, lying etc. I also stopped.

I must say for last few weeks he's been cagey with his fone. Yesterday, I saw a text from her to him. My theory he never stopped although he said he did and that she texted him just on Friday.

He's annoyed with me as I don't believe him, how can I?

Considering leaving this time, it's his house he's on the mortgage. I've looked for a rental, which I've asked to view, he knows. Trying to fill in the universal credit form, I'm not single yet, but once I move out I will be, I don't want to lie on the form! What the hell do I put?

Funny thing is, he's my best friend, I do love him but just can't go through marriage doubting or over thinking everytime he's on his fone.

They say things come in 3's: nearly spilt last time, nearly lost my job, just found out my mum has cancer and back to this again.

Feelin all kinds of everything at the moment.

OP posts:
pog100 · 27/10/2019 17:00

If you divorce the house isn't his, it's a marital asset to be shared, along with both your pensions, savings etc.
I can't really advise other than to see a solicitor before you make any move at all.

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