Dreading seeing her tomorrow

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I’m really dreading seeing this person tomorrow when I drop daughter off to school. I decided to cut ties with her as she’s just very needy. She had a fight with me just before half term that I ignore her at school drop offs and don’t bother with her! She’s too much drama right now and to be honest she’s always annoyed me but I never saw her often enough to realise just how annoying and clingy she actually is.

I’ve been really upset over things she said to me. It’s just too much expectations from a friend i met at baby club and prior to kids starting same school I probably saw her 2 or 3 times a year so not really close.

I’m so overwhelmed with small children one of which is a baby. I don’t have tine for dramas etc. What shall I do when I see her tomorrow?

Just be super civil and polite, like your talking to an old auntie - only if she approaches you first xx

Say good morning, drop the kids and go get on with the day.

Say a polite hello and keep walking. Chat to another parent.

I assume when you say fight it was purely verbal? If she approaches you to continue the argument just walk away from her. otherwise I would follow temporarynames advice. Super civil, tight smile, curt nod, don’t engage. Good luck

I no it's not easy when you feel her eyes will be burning at you. But focus on your child. Hold your daughter's hand. Talk to her. Get her into class. Turn and walk out the gates and go back to the car or walk home. Don't worry. If there's anyone you can talk to instead do that. I cba with drama either. Thankfully everyone is so nice at DD gates so far. I've found my people and I just say morning to most people and smile. I think some playgrounds are terrible for the drama though x

Thanks everyone for your replies I’m really dreading seeing her! Please read my previous threads relating to her if you need some perspective. I did change my usual use she to post as she knew my previous name on here but I don’t care anymore!

The problem is I find her very clingy and needy. She had a fight with me just before half terms as she said u don’t speak nicely to her! I just want to drop my DD off and get in with my day but she expects long chats At the gate. She’s been messaging me really nasty things do I blocked her number

Hi op. Having similar issue at work. I've just ignored. Best thing to do with narcissistic bully's.

I would not tolerate this. Energy sucking narcissist. Please read up on it. Education is the best thing I ever did when I found myself in a similar situation. She is after someone who is available to just listen, all the time, and this week it's you, next week someone else, etc, they honestly are not slight bothered about you, or even interested. They just need attention and a negative one is just as valid as the positive one, it's about the feed they get from whoever is on their radar that day, week and so forth. You don't own her a thing.

You are giving this woman FAR too much headspace, three threads about her is excessive. Very plainly and simply tell her "Im sorry the lines seem to have been blurred along the way but we are not friends. I am a parent of your child's classmate, no more. Please stop abusing me for not meeting your level of expectations of contact between us. I don't want any drama and am perfectly happy to be cordial but please give me space going forward".

Thank you guys I know I’m giving it so much more thought than I need to, I think big part of it is I’m trying to understand her, I’ve searched what u suggested @TheTickingTime and this has helped! I definitely need to stop wasting time thinking of this person and just take my mind of her craziness!

Thank you everyone x