DD is 18 months. MIL was an absolute nightmare throughout the pregnancy and up to DD being a few weeks old. She relentlessly 'competed' with other grandparents, was overbearing and actually made it really hard for me to bond with DD. Soon the novelty wore off and she hardly bothered with us for months, then she fell onto hard times and suddenly had an interest in DD again but everytime she came it was to ask DP if she could borrow money.
DD2 is now due in November. I am absolutely dreading it. MIL lives a 5 min drive away and comes EVERY SINGLE DAY at random times (inbetween shifts or after work etc), I ignore the door if I am home alone but if DP is here he answers.
I feel bad because we do get along besides her overbearingness because we do have things in common, but having to see her every single day I cannot relax in this house. I can't just sit around in my pyjamas in the evening, or have a nice quiet morning without messages asking where I am or what I am doing. I literally cannot take anymore. She doesnt take the hint that I dont want her here all the time, to me its not normal.
I told DP I'm getting a bit sick of it now as she has just rang to say shes "popping in" within the next hour (normally its no notice) and he says if I have a problem i should just say it to her and that shes doing nothing wrong, she just wants to see her grandchild 🙄
Surely this isn't a normal thing to do, once or twice a week i could tolerate but everyday any time of the day, seriously? I feel like I'm on eggshells all the time waiting for her to turn up