partners 7 months gone and says were done

[alb13]

Right to give you some background were both in our mid 30's this is going to be my first child and her second . for me it could have been number 4 . we both lost a baby early into our relationship and ive also had a previous partner have an abortion without letting me know.

so my current / ex partner says ive not shown much interest and dont seem to care were having a baby . now shes just completey cut me off and gone so cold and isnt showing any emoition at all. also she has complications with her placenta meaning shes likely have a sevre bleed when baby is delivered .

lines of communication are about dead at the moment weve been split for a week now. im trying to give her some space but also want to show her i do care more than anything . any advice or thoughts on the situation would be amazing thanks people x

Presumably she's no longer interested in a relationship with you so you need to talk about the baby.

Let her know that you want to be a dad (presumably you're male) and if there's any appointments she want you at you'll be there.

Focus on the baby. The relationship is done.

what makes you so sure ? and ill defintally do that anyway its the child i thought id never have

There must be more to this as deciding to be a single mother is not an easy decision to make (been there when pregnant with ds who is now 4).
Whatever the reason you need to respect her decision. As pp said, you need to discuss the baby, contact, maintenance at the least to start with.
How long have you been together? Were you happy before or has trouble been brewing?

@alb13 oh I don't know maybe the fact she's gone cold and the lines of communication have gone dead

Were you actively supportive or just verbally excited about this "child you never thought you'd have"?

What actual help have you been to her?

Guess @alb13 isn't coming back 🙄

Well I'd been working away and hadnt really talked about baby much at all when I was home just was terrified it wouldn't happen and we've been together about 15 months and had a few little issues but nothing that I'd call major ... I think shes just thought I'm not around much and haven't been very supportive so I'll do it on my own

This sounds like a miscommunication that should be easy enough to fix if you put the effort in to assure her you are very much there and committed. You may have underestimated how much support and reassurance she needs as she is likely very scared especially with the medical complications. Bear in mind she will be hormonal too. I wouldn't give up on fixing things just yet.

well ive written her a letter today and sent it by post hopefully it gives her some food for though... and in an attempt to deal with everything have started a blog just so i can try and work through everything thats going on and see if that helps me too...

Started a blog? Does that mean your innermost thoughts and her pregnancy are out there for the world to see?

No just how I'm dealing with the break up and how I'm going to move forward and address my issues which I've done under a alas