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Feel so down

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noregretsinlife · 24/10/2019 23:32

Had my baby girl 5 weeks early she wasn’t due until the 14 th October haveing a few issues with her dad and how he’s just decided to walk out our life without a good enough reason he has said he’s just feeling down and can’t be bothered with life and it's nothing iv done 🤔 Am I selfish in thinking that’s not good enough to just decide this !!! Me Getting pregnant wasn’t part of our plan because it was only fun at the beginning but when I found out I gave him the choice of sticking around or not and but he wanted to and also made the choice of meeting my other 2 kids Witch he new took a lot for me to let that happen I also meet his other kids and he became a part of our life now does this leaving me confused and beginning for him to talk when it’s only me and the baby I just sit and cry I haven’t been out the house in days I can’t shake myself out of it i no he’s not a horrible person but what do I do I’m completely broken 💔 the last 2 weeks he's not asked about his baby or wanted to see her I don't no if him feeling down is just an excuse do I give him space 🤷🏻‍♀️

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MMadness · 25/10/2019 09:28

He's a loser.

It puzzles me why women determine that bringing a child into a non existent relationship is good idea.

It never is. Ever. Not for you, the man, the baby and the other children.

You've no choice but to get on with it.

TheStuffedPenguin · 25/10/2019 09:31

It's too late for recriminations so now you need to get on with it . You chose to have this baby and I hope that you have some family and good friends to support you . I don't know how old you are and in future dont get pregnant when it is not part of "the plan" . Leave him to it and concentrate on your new baby .

hellsbellsmelons · 25/10/2019 09:37

Well he IS a horrible person to do this.
But... men also suffer from PND.
And with this going on, you will be to.
Please go to your GP or talk to your HV.
You need some support and they can help you.
Write him off as a total loser.
Do you have any family or friends close by?

Vemvet · 25/10/2019 09:56

Agree fully with you, MMadness

noregretsinlife · 26/10/2019 07:49

I had the implant in so it was a shock but I would never have an abortion I'm 30 and I have family and friends to help but I don't have any other choice I need to realise I won't ever get the answers I want sonwasting time is stupit I did choose to have this baby and I'll love her enough that she won't ever feel like she wasn't iv wasted to much time on him so iv deleted his number and blocked him on all social media he nows he can see his daughter but rite now he's made the choice not to

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