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Identity crisis

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Sinatra99 · 24/10/2019 21:45

Hi

I’m 48 and DH 53 - 2 DC - DD 21 and DS 17

DD is at uni 2 hours away and I’ve really missed her since she left 2 years ago and I’m left to live with 2 men!

DH works from home and plays on his PS4 and DS is either in his room or out with friends. I feel so alone and I’ve explained to my DH that I feel lonely and need some adult company. We don’t sleep in the same bed as he has medical issues and he struggles to stay in one position for too long and his restlessness keeps me awake.

I honestly don’t know if I can take much more of living like this. We don’t have arguments but my DH is not emotionally supportive or tactile. I’ve made sure that the DC growing up are able to hug me and him as I want them to be able to express their emotions and not suppress them.

The problem is now the children don’t need me I feel that I need some affection ( he has never been affectionate ) and altho he does try it makes him uncomfortable and he stops.

Not sure what answers I’m looking for but welcome peoples opinions.

OP posts:
TheBatsHaveLeftTheBellTower · 25/10/2019 05:46

Do you have a life outside of the home? Work, other family, friends? Hoobies/interests?

None of those things will help the affection element particularly but I wonder if you're stuck in a place where this is all there is?

Are you happy with your husband generally? Do you still love him? Does he love you?

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