Boyfriend still on dating app..

[Hopeislife]

So my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend at the start of September. Before that we had been dating unofficially since June. I met him on a Christian dating app (as we’re both believing Christians). Everything has been going great the past few months apart from a tiny disagreement that we both resolved and moved on from.

However this evening I checked to see if he has deleted his account on Christian connection to find that he hasn’t. He still is a full member (meaning he pays the monthly subscription) and he was online 8 hours ago. My stomach dropped when I found this out!

I don’t know how to ask him about it though because he might ask why I even checked? I just randomly had a thought to check and tbh I’m glad I did! What should I say?

I’ve no idea if he’s talking to anyone else or if he just has it to nosey at others but I am a little hurt as why did he ask me to be his girlfriend if he’s not ready to fully commit?

Please help! I’m driving myself crazy!

Just ask him

Absolutely ask him. What made you check though? Does something feel off?

So you still have yours too if you were able
To check?

So you and your boyfriend are both still on the dating app? You're on it checking on him, he may be on it checking on you?

So I deleted the app a few months ago but noticed he still had it. Then today I remembered he still had it and checked it just to see if he deleted it or not and found out he hasn’t. I feel awful for checking as I had to make a fake account but I just remembered about it and wanted to check.

I also had this issue recently and along with other red flags I chose to ignore/ give him the benefit of the doubt. It hasn't ended well.
Men are like kids in a sweet shop with this kind of thing, it's pure greed and disrespect. They like the attention and ego boost.

Message him from the fake account and see if he reply’s

Twat. Seriously
Catfish him. And have a laugh at his demise . Hugs op... sorry its happening to u.

This is horrible. You poor thing. I wouldn't waste my time waiting for his excuses.
I'd catfish him if you want proof but really he's not worth it.
A decent man who is serious about you won't do this. If he's looking for an ego boost from random girls he's not mature enough to have a grown up relationship
You deserve much morex

Huge. Red. Flag.

Huge!

I was you, two years ago. He totally minimised the significance of it, and I went along with it.

Now, every time I get a bit insecure, I feel like he might still be out there looking for something else/ better/ different, etc etc.

Only, I can't bring it up, because somehow I was in the wrong for 'checking up' in the first place.

My advice is to run. You are not in the same place. I can't see how you'll ever trust him.

You deserve better.

Put it in another context.

'I cooked my friends tea but then realise they got a Chinese take away on the way home. Do you think I gave them enough to eat?'

Uh oh. Doesn't sound very trust worthy.

Exactly what Proseccoh said.

Not great that you're setting up fake accounts and snooping and he's logging into a dating app after less than two months together.

@OhioOhioOhio I don't get that :/

I wouldn't necessarily be worried about him having an account (although most people would remember to cancel a subscription to something) but that he's been on just today seems damning.

Definitely chat him up from the fake account- use a fake pic and see what he says! xxx

I'd also message him on the fake account and see if he responds.

I wouldn’t bother with catfishing him. If he knows you made a fake account he will use that against you. He’s running a risk though! What if someone you or he knew had seen his active profile?
Just tell him you found out he’s still on the app.

How are you op?

@Hopeislife

I would just tell him that you noticed he hadn't deleted the app and ask if he is still using it. Whether or not he is honest will tell you all that you need to know.