What a mess where to go?

[ineedtochangethis18]

I met this guy through a friend after a few years of liking each other from afar. We met and instantly hit it off, I ended up getting pregnant shortly after. We both were shocked but both decided this is something we could handle and do it together. We live about 2 hours away from each other but he’s planning on moving closer. Since I’ve been pregnant we’ve argued a few times, I don’t know if it’s the pressure. I’m absolutely petrified of being a single parent or being alone forever. I know that’s not the case but it’s just not my ideal.

He said we can’t rush into a relationship? We need to concentrate on the baby first and foremost. Okay but then why are we sleeping together and not seeing other people? I just feel like I’ve made such a mess of this. I don’t regret the baby but the situation I will be bringing it into. I cry every night.

He has been excellent in terms of being there for me emotionally and for the baby and appointments. But right now it’s like we’re not seeing eye to eye. I’m so hormonal I don’t know where to go from here

If he has been there and he is being great support.... dont sweat it. He might feel everythings happened too fast and might be a bit afraid of commitment and labels. He is showing up for you , as long as he carries on doing that there shouldnt be anything to worry about. Some people fear "naming" things. And if he didn't... there wouldnt be anything to worry about either because you are more than capable to do it by yourself. (I know now its scary as fuck) but trust me : you are capable of doing it and you are capable of being happy while u do it and ur baby sure as hell will be well happy too.

As a bloke he is probably full of nerves about the impending baby.
This is normal and if he’s been supportive I would think you will be ok if you continue to include him in everything that happens up to and including the birth.
You will naturally feel more vulnerable too so remember to put yourself first as well.

Sorry to be harsh op but be prepared to be a single parent..it rarely works our having a baby so soon into a relationship. Even the most strongest relationships can suffer when people have dc. I would be prepared to be a single parent if you're arguing now.