ExH formed a close relationship with girl at work, supporting her through her mental health issues.
I asked him not to give her his mobile no. so she knew that it was just a work friendship.
He gave her his number, and spent most of his home time on his phone to her, neglecting me & DD.
I warned him not to meet up with her outside work as she'd start seeing him as her hero and fall in love with him.
He met her outside work and guess what...?
Once I caught him out, he said they were in love but hadn't done anything except kiss (yeah right, whatever) so I told him if he could drop all contact with her (he'd already been sacked by now for spending all his time at work talking to her) then I'd consider counselling.
He wouldn't drop contact with both of us but said he'd have to let her down gently due to her mental health issues.
I said I'd consider counselling once she was out of his life, then found that he'd booked a romantic weekend away with her... that was the last straw and I kicked him out.
So how, after over 4 years, does he still think this is my fault? How dare he tell me that our DD is upset coz he had to move out? (she isn't) I gave him so many chances to not go down the path he chose but somehow it's still all my fault? I very rarely speak to him, only when he drops off DD, but for my own mental health I think I'm going to have to make sure I'm not there at pick up and drop off because I hate feeling this angry.
Not sure what I hoped to achieve with this post, sometimes it just helps to get it all out I guess!