The first time with someone new

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Started dating someone 3 weeks ago....great guy...a real top bloke...who seems to be into me keen on me too...bonus!

We went to do the deed after an amazing night out...brilliant laugh etc

It didnt go so well....without being to graphic this time of morning. Things lifted off but would unlift once things got moving....if you get my drift.

I had this with my ex and it did dint my confidence a bit so this touched a nerve. We tried several times...in the early hours and when we woke. We tried different things.....but then i got really self body conscious and shy....the opposite of what im normally like.

Posting to get a bit of support or advice or pep talk. The other thing is....wasn't very endowed....not that im endowed in the boob dept at alllll. i think im just nervous were a mismatch in that dept or that hes not really feeling it.

Had drink been taken?

How old is he?

yes to drink but not loads

and

42

Nerves could be a factor. Dont give up if it was just a one off kinda night.

Maybe meet up for lunch or invite him round for a film and see if it happens again. Its only been 3 weeks!

ITS NOT YOU..

He got an erection from being aroused by you. If he falling at the last hurdle there something going on with HIM and it could be a number of things.

Drink
Guilt
Baggage (psychological)
Testosterone levels
Fear
Asexual
etc.

Talking will find out why. If he shifts in any way onto you,, Fuck him off.

ITS NOT YOU.

Maybe try a gentle approach . Maybe don't go into over-analysis mode and give the bloke a grilling. Could just be he was nervous.

I can tell you I can sympathise with him! First time with a new partner a few months ago, after being married for 9 years, I was nervous and was not my usual self. (Still managed though ). It worried me a bit, and I am glad it never ended up being discussed. After that first time, I was back to my usual broomstick-hard standards.

My partner of 3 years was a little like this at first. I was his first since his marriage ended and he'd been faithful to her so i waa the first 'new' person in about 18 years for him. If you like him and you want to pursue thus, don't make it about you and thus make him feel like hrs letting you down. Dint assume it will alwats end in full PIV sex.. A bj might work well. Just take it slow, dont ramp expectations. Partner and i took about 2/3 months to build up to full unrestrained swinging from the chandeliers but its still fab 3 years on.

I wouldn't think this is a busted flush until you had had at least a dozen fails.

Don't mention it at this early stage whatever you do. Just be normal.

Don’t worry, a dick has a mind of its own!
As per previous posts there are many factors involved and none of it your fault.
Could be as simple as some minor worry in his life or nerves.
It will likely go away but if not speak to him without sounding disappointed. Tell him what you enjoy sexually and if he’s a decent type you will work around it.
Good luck too!

Pretty much all men have at some point worried that

1. Their cock is too small
2. They cant get it up
3. They last 30 seconds

OTOH your own insecurities don’t actually stop you having sex. I wouldn’t worry yet.

Thank you all for the messages....helped xxx

Currently grinning from ear to ear. There was no issue whatsoever :D ladt night :D plenty of lift off!!

This happened to me first time with new man. He's also 42. He said it was nerves and i felt the same as you. Awkward and not very attractive. He said that he'd built it up
So much in his head he just lost it. We've met up plenty of times since and believe me had no problems!!!

Have you managed to talk about it?

Most likely stage fright. Very common to have erection difficulties part way through on the first or first few occasions as nerves and being self conscious can take over.

Once he is relaxed and more confident, it will likely resolve.

Ahh sounds like it's all OK then Wheely Yay!